Marriage is being attacked from all angles.
I Defend Marriage: A Battle Against Attacks from All Sides
Throughout my career, I have dedicated myself to defending the institution of marriage. It is not only the foundation of civilization, but it is also constantly under attack. What troubles me the most is that these attacks are not only coming from the Left, but also from certain factions on the Right. Influencers on the right-wing, with a large following of young, mostly male fans, are advocating for men to abandon marriage and family life. These influencers, who claim to despise feminists, ironically share the same conclusion as feminists: giving up on the family. It seems that both sides harbor a deep disdain for marriage and each other.
The Voice of Inexperience
One of these influencers is Pearl Davis, a young woman in her mid-twenties who has gained a significant following on YouTube and social media. Despite being single and childless, she confidently shares her opinions on modern marriage and family life, despite having no personal insight into the matter. She has recently taken to the internet to criticize ”tradcons” like myself, claiming that we promote the nuclear family without truly understanding its realities. According to her, we are too young to know better, while she, as a younger, single woman, apparently knows better.
The trad cons push marriage because they aren’t old enough to know better yet.
They don’t know the reality of what they’re pushing. pic.twitter.com/DttSVE7XtB
— H. Pearl Davis (@pearlythingz) September 21, 2023
In her tweets, Davis questions the motives of traditional conservatives and claims that we are ignorant of the reality of marriage. She even goes as far as to suggest that we are pushing something we don’t fully comprehend. However, she fails to acknowledge that her own lack of experience in marriage and family life puts her at a disadvantage when it comes to understanding the complexities of these relationships.
The virtue signaling needs to stop. For an organization that talks about facts – let’s ask the question.
Would you ever sign a contract that fails 75% of the time where your business partner is paid to break the contract?
Why would you encourage men to sign that contract… https://t.co/vpZO7rqFkf
— H. Pearl Davis (@pearlythingz) September 22, 2023
Davis further argues that marriage is a “terrible deal for men” and compares it to signing a contract with a 75% failure rate, where one party is incentivized to break the contract. She questions why anyone would encourage men to enter into such an agreement until the terms are fixed. However, her perspective fails to consider the many successful and fulfilling marriages that exist, as well as the personal growth and happiness that can come from committing to a lifelong partnership.
Unveiling the Truth Behind Divorce Statistics
Davis claims that marriages fail at a rate of 75%, a figure higher than the commonly cited 50%. She shares a post from an alleged lawyer who supports this claim, stating that the 75% figure includes not only divorces but also men trapped in unhappy marriages due to financial and custody concerns. However, the source of this statistic remains unclear, leaving room for skepticism.
It is important to note that divorce rates are not static and have actually decreased in recent years. The commonly cited 50% figure is outdated and likely inaccurate. According to U.S. Census data, approximately 35% of American adults who have been married have experienced divorce. While this is still a significant number, it is far from the doom and gloom statistics that Davis and others present.
Marriage: A Risk Worth Taking
Despite the challenges and risks associated with marriage, it remains a worthwhile endeavor. While systemic issues within the family court system need to be addressed, waiting for these reforms is not a viable solution. Asking young men to forgo marriage and family life is a surrender, depriving them of the opportunity to experience the profound joy and meaning that comes from building a family. It is essential to recognize that individual choices and efforts can greatly influence the success and stability of a marriage.
Marriage, like any worthwhile endeavor, comes with risks. However, avoiding these risks by avoiding marriage altogether guarantees a life devoid of the potential rewards and fulfillment that come with building a family. It is crucial to approach marriage with caution and take practical steps to mitigate risks, but it is equally important to embrace the opportunity for personal growth, happiness, and leaving a lasting impact on the world.
What factors contribute to the misleading interpretation of divorce rates and the perception of a high failure rate for marriages?
N style=”font-weight: 400″>One of the main arguments against marriage is the high divorce rate. Critics like Davis often cite this statistic as evidence that marriage is destined to fail and therefore should be avoided. However, this argument is flawed. While it is true that divorce rates exist and marriages do sometimes end in separation, it is important to delve deeper into the reasons behind these statistics.
Firstly, the 75% failure rate mentioned by Davis is misleading. This statistic is often misinterpreted and does not accurately reflect the true probability of divorce. The divorce rate is calculated by dividing the number of divorces in a specific year by the number of marriages that occurred in that same year. It does not account for the duration of marriages, meaning that it includes both short-lived marriages and long-lasting ones. Furthermore, it does not consider the reasons for divorce, such as infidelity, abuse, or irreconcilable differences.
Secondly, it is important to acknowledge that divorce rates have actually been declining in recent years. According to data from the National Center for Health Statistics, the divorce rate in the United States reached its lowest point in 50 years in 2019. This indicates that more couples are successfully navigating the challenges of marriage and are committed to making their partnerships work.
Additionally, focusing solely on divorce rates overlooks the many benefits of marriage. Numerous studies have shown that married individuals tend to have better physical and mental health, higher incomes, and more stability in their lives. Marriage provides a support system and a sense of belonging that is difficult to find elsewhere. It fosters personal growth, emotional fulfillment, and a sense of purpose. These positive aspects of marriage are often overshadowed by the negative portrayal of divorce rates.
A Call for Unity
Instead of continuously attacking marriage from all sides, it is crucial to recognize the value that this institution holds for individuals and society as a whole. Marriage promotes stability, commitment, and the formation of strong families, which are the backbone of any prosperous and thriving civilization. It is a union built on love, trust, and mutual support.
Rather than pitting feminists against traditional conservatives, we should strive for a more nuanced and inclusive conversation about marriage and family life. Both sides have valid concerns and insights that can contribute to a comprehensive understanding of this complex institution. By engaging in respectful dialogue and seeking common ground, we can work towards strengthening marriages and ensuring their longevity.
As someone who has dedicated themselves to defending marriage, I urge individuals from all sides of the political spectrum to set aside their differences and approach this topic with open minds and hearts. Let us focus on promoting healthy relationships, fostering strong families, and building a society where marriage is respected and cherished.
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