How My Unplanned Pregnancy Led To A Beautiful Adoption
November is National Adoption Month.
Indecisiveness can sometimes be a blessing, a lesson I learned when it saved a precious life - the life of a sweet, 5-year-old boy who is with me today.
Growing up in a Christian household that valued the sanctity of life, I was lost when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant at 23, single, and unemployed. I was unsure of what to do.
I must admit, abortion was the first thought that crossed my mind.
Fortunately, my close relationship with my mother led me to New Life Adoption, where a compassionate social worker discussed all my options, including adoption.
Abortion seemed like a quick fix, but as I pondered on it, I realized its irreversible consequences. The child growing inside me was here, right now. Abortion would not only take him away from me, but it would also extinguish his life forever. There would be no turning back.
On the other hand, adoption would give me more time to consider my options and ensure that I wouldn’t have to embrace the parenting role I didn’t feel ready for.
Eventually, it became clear that adoption was the right path. With the support of my family, New Life Adoption, and my friends, I found the courage to choose it. From that moment, everything fell into place.
After going through numerous family profile books provided by New Life, I agreed to meet with some close family friends who had also adopted a child through the agency. Their vulnerable story of loss and their journey touched my heart. While I could never replace the babies they lost, I found comfort in knowing that I could add a second beautiful life to their family.
Every birth mother I’ve encountered has shared the same sentiment – when they met the right family, it just clicked. That’s exactly how it was with our family friends. It was a moment of overwhelming relief, certainty, and peace.
I knew that the pregnancy journey was just as important to my son’s adoptive parents as it was to me. I wanted them to build a special connection with him from the start, so I asked if they would choose his name. They chose “James,” a family name for both of us, as his middle name.
Deep down, I had always thought “Samuel” would be the perfect name for him, but I didn’t want to pressure them. So, when his adoptive parents suggested the name “Samuel James,” I knew they were the right parents for him.
Samuel’s adoptive family was there with me in the hospital as I gave birth. I witnessed his mom’s tears of joy as she looked at her son for the first time, and with my permission, she even snipped his umbilical cord.
Before labor and delivery, I had feared what it would be like to place my child with someone else and go home to an empty house. But seeing the completeness of the family in front of me calmed my fears. This wouldn’t have been possible if I had chosen abortion.
Thanks to the support I received from my family, friends, and New Life Adoption, I felt peace as I walked through my front door after leaving the hospital. Choosing life and finding the perfect family for my son’s future made me feel more fulfilled than ever before.
Although I recently moved away for work, Samuel’s joy in the world is palpable even from thousands of miles away. His parents send me pictures almost daily, and I laugh at their stories of his energy, stubbornness, and compassion – traits they recognize from me and my family. Above all, it brings me immense happiness to witness the love between Samuel and his brother and the incredible life they get to live together.
Courtesy: Sophrona Lavasseur
Reflecting on my journey, I know that none of this would have been possible without the tremendous support from my family and New Life Adoption. Their support gave me the calmness and clarity to consider the tragic realities of abortion and the joys that adoption can bring.
Whether it’s from family, friends, or even strangers, I hope every woman feels supported and empowered to choose life for her child, even if she doesn’t feel ready to be a parent. There are countless loving couples in the world who will not only embrace your child but also embrace you. My experience with adoption has shown me that life is a precious gift worth giving.
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Sophrona Lavasseur resides in Arizona and currently works as a sales manager. As a small business owner, she spends her summer weekends in the Midwest as a wedding coordinator with Joyful Day Weddings. In her free time, she serves on the board of her hometown community festival ambassador program, travels, and speaks at events to educate others about adoption.
The views expressed in this piece are those of the author and do not necessarily represent those of The Daily Wire.
What does choosing adoption require from birth parents?
Throughout the month of November, we recognize and celebrate National Adoption Month. This is a time to raise awareness about the importance of adoption and to honor the incredible individuals who have chosen to open their hearts and homes to children in need.
Adoption is a life-changing decision, both for the child who finds a forever family and for the birth parents who make the selfless choice to place their child for adoption. It is a decision that is often born out of difficult circumstances, and it requires immense courage and strength.
As someone who has personally experienced the journey of adoption, I can attest to the profound impact it can have on the lives of those involved. When I found myself unexpectedly pregnant at a young age, I was faced with a multitude of emotions and uncertainties. It was during this time of indecisiveness that I discovered the blessing that adoption can bring.
Being raised in a Christian household that values the sanctity of life, I felt lost and unsure about what to do. Abortion initially crossed my mind as a quick fix, but upon reflection, I realized the irreversible consequences it would have. The child growing inside me was a living being, deserving of a chance at life. It was then that adoption emerged as the right path for both myself and the child.
Through the support of my family, I connected with New Life Adoption, where compassionate social workers guided me through the adoption process. They presented me with all my options, allowing me to consider each one carefully. Adoption provided me with the opportunity to take my time and ensure that the child I carried would have the best possible future.
Making the decision to choose adoption was not an easy one, but it was ultimately the best decision I could have made. After reviewing numerous family profiles, I met a couple who had also adopted through the agency. Their story of loss and their resilient journey touched my heart, and I knew that they were the right family to welcome my child into their lives.
It is a common sentiment among birth mothers that when they meet the right family, a special connection is formed. This was the case for me. I felt an overwhelming sense of relief and certainty when I met the family who would become my son’s adoptive parents. I wanted them to have a meaningful connection with him from the beginning, so I allowed them to choose his name. The name “Samuel James” was chosen, as it held significance for all of us.
The journey of adoption did not end when I gave birth; in fact, it was just beginning. Samuel’s adoptive family was there in the hospital with me, sharing in the joy of his arrival. Their presence and support brought me comfort, dispelling any fears or doubts I had about this decision. The completeness of the family in front of me reassured me that I had made the right choice.
Leaving the hospital and returning home could have been an incredibly difficult and lonely experience, but the support I received from my loved ones and New Life Adoption made all the difference. As I walked through the front door, I felt a sense of peace and fulfillment, knowing that I had chosen life and found the perfect family for my son.
As we reflect on National Adoption Month, let us remember the countless birth parents who have made the courageous decision to choose adoption. Their selflessness and love have forever changed the lives of the children they have placed. Let us also celebrate the adoptive families who have opened their hearts and homes, providing love, stability, and a bright future for these children.
National Adoption Month serves as a reminder that every child deserves a loving and permanent home. It is an opportunity to educate others about the benefits of adoption and to encourage more individuals and families to consider this incredible option. Together, we can make a difference in the lives of children and honor the spirit of love and compassion that adoption represents.
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