Biden Administration’s Au Pair Cost Hike May Force Moms Out of Work
After becoming a mom, I left a traditional 9-to-5 for a job that allowed me to work from home. I didn’t want to leave my children for an office all day — or have my children leave me. For our family, that meant daycare was off the table. I tried hiring local nannies, but they were expensive and lacked the flexibility I needed. So in 2022, I tried something new: I enrolled in the Au Pair Program, run by the State Department, and welcomed into our home a lovely young woman from Brazil. With a baby, a 2-year-old, and a 4-year-old in tow, it was the unique and affordable childcare solution I desperately needed.
But now, the Biden administration is threatening to take that option away with new proposed regulations that would make the program unworkable for thousands of families like mine who depend on it.
And depend on it we do.
Day in the Life
At 5:30 a.m., I wake to my husband leaving for work. From our house in Northern Virginia to Washington, D.C., he has an hour commute. Though my 4- and 2-year-olds will be up soon, I stay in bed for a few more minutes — the baby, after all, didn’t sleep.
By 7 a.m., toddlers are dragging me downstairs. I’m outnumbered three-to-one, and it’s breakfast time. Relief doesn’t come until 8:30 a.m., when my au pair begins work. At 8:45 a.m., she drives my oldest to preschool.
I’m fortunate to work from home but can’t start until 9:40 a.m., when my au pair returns. She takes the younger two while I play catch-up on the 40 minutes I missed.
At 12:45 p.m. I leave to pick up my daughter from school — as a mom, I feel that’s a small but important thing to do.
Around 1:30 p.m., I’m back and need to feed the baby. I answer emails while I nurse. Until my au pair is off at 5:30 p.m., I’m working to the sound of tiny footsteps outside my office — and probably the occasional scream. From there, I’m throwing chicken nuggets in the air fryer while crossing my fingers that my husband makes it home to help with bedtime.
If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It
Under the au pair program’s current structure, families pay an upfront program fee costing around $10,000, which covers things like their au pair’s health care. Families also pay for their au pair’s basic living expenses, which include accommodation, meals, education assistance, transportation, and a roughly $200 weekly stipend meant for discretionary expenses.
The new proposed model would double or even triple their weekly stipend based on a confusing model that would pay au pairs according to the highest applicable minimum wage between the federal, state, and local rates.
While increasing their weekly pay, the proposal would reduce an au pair’s maximum workable hours from 45 to 40 each week and limit families’ ability to make last-minute changes to their schedule. (Early doctor’s appointment? Work travel? Good luck.)
The administration admits that should it proceed under these changes, “some host families may not be able to afford an au pair and may be priced out.” Already, this happened in Massachusetts, which saw a 68 percent drop in au pair placements after implementing a similar price hike.
Au pairs are not traditional workers operating under a traditional employee-employer model. They are voluntary participants in a cultural exchange that, up until now, was a win-win for au pairs, families, and American diplomacy.
When childcare becomes unaffordable, it’s working moms who are statistically more likely to drop out of the workforce. The Biden administration claims to support working families, but this proposal would do the opposite.
Even with an amazing au pair, I’m only hanging on by a thread. It’s 10 p.m., and I’m in bed working again. Threatening to gut the au pair program feels like a gut punch for me because I know it’s my final lifeline. In a few hours, I’ll be up feeding the baby again.
In what ways would the requirement for a private bedroom and separate bathroom for the au pair negatively impact families living in smaller homes or apartments?
Ipend, effectively making the program unaffordable for many families. Additionally, the proposed regulations would require families to provide a private bedroom and separate bathroom for the au pair, which is not feasible for families living in smaller homes or apartments.
This is not just a matter of convenience for families like mine; it is a matter of necessity. The au pair program provides a unique and affordable childcare solution that allows parents to work while also ensuring their children are well-cared for in the comfort of their own homes. It allows us to strike a balance between our professional and personal lives, something that is increasingly difficult to do in today’s fast-paced society.
The program also offers cultural exchange opportunities, allowing families to learn about different cultures and languages firsthand. My children have developed a deep appreciation for Brazilian culture and have formed a bond with our au pair that extends beyond being just a caregiver. It has broadened their horizons and enriched their lives in ways that traditional daycare or nannies simply cannot.
But perhaps most importantly, the au pair program allows us as parents to be present in our children’s lives, to be there for the milestones and the ordinary moments. It allows us to provide the love, care, and guidance that only a parent can give. And in today’s world, where time seems to be slipping away faster than ever, that is priceless.
Conclusion
The new proposed regulations by the Biden administration threaten to upend the lives of thousands of families who rely on the au pair program for affordable and flexible childcare. These regulations would make the program unworkable for many families who are already struggling to make ends meet and find a work-life balance.
As a parent who depends on the au pair program, I urge the administration to reconsider these proposed regulations. Instead, let us work together to find solutions that ensure the program remains accessible and affordable for families like mine, who rely on it to provide a loving and nurturing environment for our children while allowing us to pursue our careers and be present in our children’s lives.
The au pair program is not just a service; it is a lifeline for families. Let us not take that lifeline away.
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