{"id":2644958,"date":"2026-08-14T08:23:58","date_gmt":"2026-08-14T12:23:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/utm_sourcerssutm_mediumrssutm_campaignif-you-want-to-be-a-grandparent-one-day-raise-your-kids-to-get-married-and-want-babies-asap\/"},"modified":"2026-08-14T08:30:27","modified_gmt":"2026-08-14T12:30:27","slug":"utm_sourcerssutm_mediumrssutm_campaignif-you-want-to-be-a-grandparent-one-day-raise-your-kids-to-get-married-and-want-babies-asap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/utm_sourcerssutm_mediumrssutm_campaignif-you-want-to-be-a-grandparent-one-day-raise-your-kids-to-get-married-and-want-babies-asap\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Want Grandbabies, Raise Your Kids To Get Married ASAP"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">22<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Futm_sourcerssutm_mediumrssutm_campaignif-you-want-to-be-a-grandparent-one-day-raise-your-kids-to-get-married-and-want-babies-asap%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=2644958&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>The article discusses the cultural shift in perspectives on marriage and parenthood, emphasizing that delaying marriage and childbearing has become normalized and seen as a form of female empowerment. The author highlights how many young Americans are postponing these life milestones due to societal influences that prioritize education,career,financial stability,and personal revelation before marriage and children. This mindset often leads to fewer or no grandchildren in later generations. <\/p>\n<p>The piece advocates for parents to model a different approach by valuing family life early on, showing that children are the essence of fulfillment rather than obstacles. It stresses the importance of coaching young peopel in purposeful dating and recognizing college as an opportunity to find a life partner, with many young adults already envisioning having children as an integral part of their future. <\/p>\n<p>Furthermore, the article criticizes the tendency to suppress fertility through means like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/rosenfield-left-has-abandoned-health-care-as-human-right-for-unvaccinated\/\" title=\"Rosenfield: Left Has Abandoned Health Care as &#039;Human Right&#039; for Unvaccinated\">hormonal birth control<\/a>, urging a shift toward understanding and respecting biological fertility timelines. ultimately, it encourages parents to lay a foundation that prioritizes marriage and children, viewing them as the true beginning of a good life, rather than as a culmination postponed until later in life.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"readmore\">\n    <button onclick=\"showReadMore()\" id=\"readmorebtn\">Read more&#8230;<\/button>\n<\/p>\n<hr id=\"line\">\n<span id=\"more\"><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Recently, some dear friends (double-income, no kids, politically centrist) were talking with my 23-year-old daughter and her husband when the subject of children came up.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHow many do you want?\u201d they asked.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFive or six,\u201d my daughter answered.<\/p>\n<p>My friends were stunned.<\/p>\n<p>Not hostile. Impressed, actually. But understandably bewildered. As the viral <a href=\"https:\/\/x.com\/katy_faust\/status\/2086576846347612571?s=46&#038;t=cKLtc4iwUxQ2wF82Hup9nw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">AOC hormone-injection video<\/a> illustrates, postponing marriage and childbearing is not only normal, but a hallmark of female empowerment in today\u2019s culture. <\/p>\n<p>None of their friends had more than two children\u00a0and those children, some now adults, aren\u2019t even thinking about marriage, much less babies. The idea that two 23-year-olds would be calmly and deliberately planning a large family was totally foreign to them.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIs five or six even possible?\u201d they wondered. \u201cCould her body handle it?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOf course it\u2019s possible. They\u2019re starting early,\u201d I replied.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s the part our culture has forgotten.<\/p>\n<p>For decades, young Americans have been handed a very specific order of operations: Get a degree. Get another degree. Get financially established. Pay off your debt. Travel. Discover yourself. Build a career. Maybe freeze your eggs so motherhood doesn\u2019t stop you from making partner at the law firm. Buy a house. Then, once everything else is securely in place, think about getting married. And then maybe \u2026 have a baby.<\/p>\n<p>We shouldn\u2019t be surprised when that formula produces few grandchildren \u2014 or none at all.<\/p>\n<p>Parents themselves are reinforcing these priorities. In Pew Research Center\u2019s 2023 \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.pewresearch.org\/social-trends\/2023\/01\/24\/parenting-in-america-today\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Parenting in America Today<\/a>\u201d survey, roughly nine in ten parents said it was extremely or very important that their children become financially independent and have careers they enjoy. Forty-one percent prioritized earning a college degree.<\/p>\n<p>How many said it was extremely or very important that their children eventually get married? Twenty-one percent. Become parents? Twenty percent.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s a recipe for no grandchildren, or only a handful that come so late you may not get to non-nursing home time with them. <\/p>\n<p>Parents, you are the dominant influence in when and if your children have children. And much of it starts before you\u2019re even talking about dating, marriage, and fertility.<\/p>\n<p>At my <a href=\"https:\/\/thembeforeus.com\">nonprofit<\/a> where we defend children\u2019s right to their mother and father, I often say, \u201cyou become what you behold.\u201d But that\u2019s not just about children repeating the mistakes of their parents. It also has to do with modeling pathways for them to replicate.<\/p>\n<p>When our four kids were little, my husband and I didn\u2019t sit them down and tell them, \u201cYou need to marry young and give us lots of grandchildren.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>We just had lots of fun as a family.<\/p>\n<p>We didn\u2019t have much money. Lavish vacations weren\u2019t happening. We were priced out of the Seattle zoo and aquarium. But there were Legos spread across the kitchen floor on Saturdays. Family walks for coffee or cookies. Raucous card games with a \u201cWrecking Ball,\u201d and \u201cLivin\u2019 on a Prayer\u201d soundtrack. Homemade pasta with <em>Nacho Libre <\/em>on the tablet. Our kids were our favorite people to be with.<\/p>\n<p>They grew up knowing that children weren\u2019t an interruption to the good life. Children were the good life.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s important in a culture that constantly portrays children as expensive, exhausting obstacles to adult fulfillment and motherhood as a drudgery. If that\u2019s what children <em>behold<\/em>, why would we be surprised when they decide they don\u2019t want to <em>become<\/em> fathers or mothers? Especially during the years when they are told they should just be having fun.<\/p>\n<p>As our kids got older, coaching supplemented modeling.<\/p>\n<p>We encouraged them to <a href=\"https:\/\/substack.com\/@thembeforeus\/note\/c-251289636?r=60h830&#038;utm_medium=ios&#038;utm_source=notes-share-action\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">date well<\/a> \u2014 not for thrilling, but for evaluating. Is this someone of character? Do you share a worldview? When times get hard do you want to run <em>from<\/em> them or <em>to<\/em> them? <\/p>\n<p>College matters here too. Instead of treating those four years exclusively as career preparation, parents should recognize them as a prime spouse-finding window. Send your children somewhere they are likely to meet people who share their convictions. A spouse isn\u2019t a distraction from the purpose of college. Finding the person with whom you\u2019ll build the rest of your life may be one of the most consequential things that happens there.<\/p>\n<p>At our church\u2019s Senior Sunday, each graduate shared what came next. My 18-year-old son explained that he\u2019d chosen his college because it had the major he wanted \u2014 and because, \u201cI\u2019m going to find a wife.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>For the last couple years, he\u2019s also been sending me Instagram reels of dads doing goofy things with their toddlers. \u201cI can\u2019t wait to have kids.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>His 16-year-old brother doesn\u2019t have specific plans yet. But when he talks about his future, it\u2019s always <strong>when<\/strong> he has kids, not if.<\/p>\n<p>Our daughters got the message too.<\/p>\n<p>A <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/the-woke-policing-the-woke\/\" title=\"The Woke Policing the Woke\">couple years ago<\/a>, an older lesbian asked my then 18-year-old second-born what she wanted to do after graduation.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m not sure,\u201d she replied. \u201cEither work on immigration policy to protect kids crossing the border or marry a handsome man and have lots of babies!\u201d Her questioner was horrified and warned her against becoming dependent on a man and ruining her career prospects. <\/p>\n<p>That reaction captures another problem. We<a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3YuVZYV\" >\u2019ve spent decades teaching young women<\/a> to regard their fertility as an adversary \u2014 something to suppress when they\u2019re young then technologically retrieve later after they\u2019ve accomplished more important things.<\/p>\n<p>Our daughters deserve the truth: their fertility has a timeline.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s something that more and more young women, especially of the Christian variety, are embracing. My married-at-21 daughter recently told me none of her close friends are on hormonal birth control. They\u2019re tracking their fertility, some with Oura rings, because they don\u2019t want to interfere with their cycles and are prepared for babies soon after they marry. <\/p>\n<p>Their parents have also messaged properly: Marriage shouldn\u2019t be the <strong>capstone<\/strong> you finally place atop a completed adult life after the degrees, career, travel, debt payoff, and house.<\/p>\n<p>Marriage is a <strong>cornerstone<\/strong>. Lay it early and build together. Cornerstones leave time for babies. Lots of them, if that\u2019s what you want. Capstones often leave time for one or two \u2014 or none.<\/p>\n<p>I turned 50 this year. There\u2019s a good chance that by 55, I\u2019ll have a couple grandbabies in my world.<\/p>\n<p>If that happens, it won\u2019t be because I started pressuring my children for grandchildren when they turned 30. The seeds were planted decades earlier: delighting in family life when they were little, coaching them when they began dating, teaching them the truth about fertility, and encouraging them to make finding a spouse a priority in young adulthood.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019d rather spend your 60s holding grand-babies instead of watching your 30-something daughter livestream hormone injections, start laying the foundation for marriage and parenthood now.<\/p>\n<p>Raise children who don\u2019t see marriage and babies as obstacles standing between them and the good life.<\/p>\n<p>Raise them to understand that marriage and babies are where much of the good life begins.<\/p>\n<hr>\n<p>      Katy Faust is the founder and president of <a href=\"https:\/\/thembeforeus.com\/\">Them Before Us<\/a> and spokeswoman for the Greater Than campaign. 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