{"id":2629502,"date":"2026-07-14T10:00:01","date_gmt":"2026-07-14T14:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/psychology-journal-adds-adultery-to-valid-list-of-relationship-types-calls-it-secret-non-monogamy\/"},"modified":"2026-07-14T10:04:38","modified_gmt":"2026-07-14T14:04:38","slug":"psychology-journal-adds-adultery-to-valid-list-of-relationship-types-calls-it-secret-non-monogamy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/psychology-journal-adds-adultery-to-valid-list-of-relationship-types-calls-it-secret-non-monogamy\/","title":{"rendered":"Psychology Journal Adds Adultery to Valid List of Relationship Types, Calls It &#8216;Secret Non-Monogamy&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">28<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fpsychology-journal-adds-adultery-to-valid-list-of-relationship-types-calls-it-secret-non-monogamy%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=2629502&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>The <a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3YuVZYV\" >content discusses recent updates<\/a> in British psychotherapy guidance related to non-traditional relationship styles. It highlights how the British Association of Psychotherapy and counseling now categorizes &#8220;secret non-monogamy&#8221; and recommends therapists affirm this as a valid sexuality to demonstrate cultural competence. This approach suggests that non-monogamous arrangements, even secret ones, are considered normal and acceptable, with emphasis on navigating relationship boundaries consensually.The article criticizes this perspective, contrasting it with biblical teachings that clearly regard adultery as a sin. It references various Bible passages condemning adultery and emphasizes that God&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/aramco-q2-profit-drops-38-to-30-1-billion-boosts-dividend\/\" title=\"Aramco&#039;s Q2 profit falls 38% to .1B, raises dividend.\">view remains unchanged<\/a>, contrasting human secular psychology&#8217;s evolving and frequently enough controversial positions. the message advocates for adhering to biblical principles over modern psychological guidance on issues like marriage and fidelity.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"readmore\">\n    <button onclick=\"showReadMore()\" id=\"readmorebtn\">Read more&#8230;<\/button>\n<\/p>\n<hr id=\"line\">\n<span id=\"more\"><br \/>\n<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\"><br \/>\n<?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><html><body><\/p>\n<section> \t\t\t\t<script>console.log(\"ad slot (AC1)\")<\/script><script>console.log(\"ad slot (IC1)\")<\/script><script>console.log(\"ad slot (IC2)\")<\/script><script>console.log(\"ad slot (IC3)\")<\/script><script>console.log(\"ad slot (IC4)\")<\/script><script>console.log(\"ad slot (REP_0)\")<\/script><script>console.log(\"ad slot (REP_1)\")<\/script><\/p>\n<p>Good news, adulterers: It turns out that if you get relationship counseling in Britain, you\u2019ll have your identity as a \u201csecret non-monogamist\u201d affirmed!<\/p>\n<p>And apparently, it\u2019s been that way for a while \u2014 although it took a therapist named James Esses to point out just how bewilderingly perverse the guidance from the British Association of Psychotherapy and Counseling really is.<\/p>\n<p>Esses is the founder of <a href=\"https:\/\/just-therapy.org\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Just Therapy<\/a>, an organization that believes \u201cmuch of the world of psychotherapy and counseling has been taken over by activists and ideologies, which risk harming, rather than supporting, the mental wellbeing of clients.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the kind of thing that passes as being rather boring as the news cycle goes, but he managed to go hugely viral when he discovered this passage <a href=\"https:\/\/www.westernjournal.com\/two-congressmen-resign-hours-apart-underscoring-one-basic-commandment-dont-commit-adultery\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">about adultery<\/a> in the association\u2019s \u201cGender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity Guidance.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt categorizes infidelity as a brand new sexuality: \u2018secret non-monogamy.\u2019 Therapists must affirm this sexuality to prove \u2018cultural competency,\u2019\u201d he wrote on X.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">The British Association of Psychotherapy &#038; Counselling has just released new \u2018Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity Guidance\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>It categorises infidelity as a brand new sexuality: \u2018secret non-monogamy\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Therapists must affirm this sexuality to prove \u2018cultural competency\u2019. <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/yYUEj6c1kG\">pic.twitter.com\/yYUEj6c1kG<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 James Esses (@JamesEsses) <a href=\"https:\/\/x.com\/JamesEsses\/status\/2076261276678820324?\">July 12, 2026<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.x.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>The problem is that, while this version seems to be new and the advice is updated, the principle isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>In the new version that Esses posted on X, the guidance on \u201csecret non-monogamy\u201d is pretty clear about approving it: \u201cCultural norms and social expectations influence both the prevalence of secret non-monogamy and the ways it is experienced and judged, with some societies showing stricter disapproval and others exhibiting more tacit tolerance\u2026 Secrecy is intensified by stigma, cultural norms favouring monogamy, and concerns about judgment or discrimination in relationship contexts.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Ah, those fiendish cultural norms and incidents of \u201cdiscrimination in relationship contexts.\u201d We all know that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.westernjournal.com\/chuck-schumer-lambasted-comparing-save-act-jim-crow\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">voter ID is Jim Crow 2.0<\/a>. Is \u201cYou shall not commit adultery\u201d Jim Crow 3.0? Or is it Jim Crow 0.1 beta, since it\u2019s from the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Exodus%2020&#038;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Ten Commandments<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>However, as many pointed out in the comments section, this is hardly new, alas:<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Think you\u2019ll find that was in earlier versions<\/p>\n<p>BACP dangerously insane Relationships guidance by Meg John Barker (former partner of Edward Lord) was first exposed in 2018<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Marjorie Hutchins (@leakylike) <a href=\"https:\/\/x.com\/leakylike\/status\/2076266104607932469?\">July 12, 2026<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.x.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>We have access to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bacp.co.uk\/media\/22810\/bacp-gender-sexual-relationship-diversity-gpacp001-mar23.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">2023 version<\/a>, which does not talk about the stigmas and discrimination that adulterers face, but which says that it \u201cmay be more useful to view secrecy to openness of non-monogamy as a spectrum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know how high or low your expectations for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.westernjournal.com\/always-trust-science-researchers-learn-woolly-mammoth-backbone-actually-belonged-whale\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Science\u2122<\/a> are \u2014 but if it\u2019s still high, even as it pertains to the social sciences, be prepared to be very disappointed, reader. Emphases in the following passage all my own:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><em>With secret non-monogamy it is easy for therapists to become focused on the non-normativity of what is being done: going against the normative rules of monogamy. However, <strong>under a GSRD affirmative approach, non-monogamy is an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/redistricting-in-historic-perspective-washington-examiner\/\" title=\"Redistricting in historic perspective - Washington Examiner\">equally valid form<\/a> of relating to monogamy<\/strong>, and the boundaries between them are blurred anyway. Given this, the key issue with secret non-monogamy is its non-consensual nature (see 3.8) and the secrets, lies, and deception which are involved. <strong>There may also be non-consensual deception and invasion of privacy on the part of a partner who has \u2018discovered\u2019 another\u2019s infidelity.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Thus the goal of therapy is not to stop the non-monogamous person or people from being non-monogamous \u2013 just as we would not attempt to stop a gay or trans person from being gay or trans<\/strong> \u2013 rather it is helping them navigate their relationship such that non-monogamy can either be done consensually and openly, or the relationship can end or change <strong>if partners are too incompatible in terms of where they are at with non\/monogamy for this to be possible.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>So first, adultery is equally valid to monogamy, even if it\u2019s not an explicitly open relationship. But you know, that whole pesky \u201cnon-consent from the other partner\u201d does get in the way.<\/p>\n<p>Wait, though: The partner who was cheating <em>didn\u2019t consent to being caught<\/em>, either! A-ha! See? This was non-consensual on both sides!<\/p>\n<p>And of course, we\u2019re taught that being gay or transgender is natural and irreversible, and apparently, so is \u201csecret non-monogamy.\u201d Thus, the therapist should help them \u201cnavigate\u201d this to the point where it\u2019s consensual, unless the other partner is \u201ctoo incompatible\u201d with being cheated on.<\/p>\n<p>Garbage \u2014 or, this being the British, \u201crubbish\u201d \u2014 like this excerpt is why we need to start looking back to the Bible for what God thinks about \u201csecret non-monogamy.\u201d (Or, non-monogamy, period.)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Hebrews%2013%3A4&#038;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Hebrews 13:4<\/a>: \u201cLet marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=James%204%3A4&#038;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">James 4:4<\/a>: \u201cYou adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Mark%2010%3A11-12&#038;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Mark 10:11-12<\/a>: \u201cAnd he said to them, \u2018Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Matthew%2015%3A19&#038;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Matthew 15:19<\/a>: \u201cFor out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Jeremiah%2013%3A27&#038;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Jeremiah 13:27<\/a>: \u201cI have seen your abominations, your adulteries and neighings, your lewd whorings, on the hills in the field. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! How long will it be before you are made clean?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s among many others. Amid the talk of \u201clewd whorings\u201d and comparisons of adultery to slander (\u201csecret non-veracities?\u201d) or murder (\u201cstigmatized incompatibilizing with life?\u201d), I didn\u2019t find anything about \u201csecret non-monogamy\u201d being an acceptable form of conduct. (Not even in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.christianpost.com\/news\/new-english-translation-of-bible-omits-jesus-christ-apostle.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Voice translation<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<p>God doesn\u2019t care what a psychological journal says. He cares what He says, and He says that adultery is a sin. 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