{"id":2235395,"date":"2024-05-02T10:39:01","date_gmt":"2024-05-02T14:39:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/to-be-happy-women-must-do-the-opposite-of-everything-secular-western-culture-tells-them\/"},"modified":"2024-05-02T10:48:14","modified_gmt":"2024-05-02T14:48:14","slug":"to-be-happy-women-must-do-the-opposite-of-everything-secular-western-culture-tells-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/to-be-happy-women-must-do-the-opposite-of-everything-secular-western-culture-tells-them\/","title":{"rendered":"For Women to Find Happiness, Embrace the Contrary of Secular Western Norms"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">24<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fto-be-happy-women-must-do-the-opposite-of-everything-secular-western-culture-tells-them%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=2235395&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>Summary:\u200b The societal focus on men&#8217;s challenges like &#8220;toxic masculinity&#8221;\u200d overshadows\u2064 women&#8217;s issues.\u200c Women face scrutiny for their success, leading to a \u200bfeminized bureaucracy argument. Author\u2063 Suzanne Venker\u200d advocates against secular Western norms for women&#8217;s happiness. She explores \u200btopics like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/chair-of-psychology-department-at-columbia-pens-book-about-taking-heroin-ecstasy-meth-bath-salts\/\" title=\"Chair Of Psychology Department At Columbia Pens Book About Taking Heroin, Ecstasy, Meth, Bath Salts\">work-life balance<\/a> and the impact\u2064 of daycare on children. Venker&#8217;s guidance aims to empower women to make <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/10-books-every-conservative-should-read-in-2021\/\" title=\"10 Books Every Conservative Should Read In 2021\">fulfilling life<\/a> choices, \u200dcountering\u2063 societal pressures.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"readmore\">\n    <button onclick=\"showReadMore()\" id=\"readmorebtn\">Read more&#8230;<\/button>\n<\/p>\n<hr id=\"line\">\n<span id=\"more\"><\/p>\n<p><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><\/p>\n<div class=\"article-content\">\n<p>Everyone wants to talk about what\u2019s wrong with men, whether it\u2019s \u201ctoxic masculinity,\u201d \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.aei.org\/articles\/men-without-work-2\/\">men without work<\/a>,\u201d \u201cthe end of men,\u201d the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.firstthings.com\/web-exclusives\/2023\/02\/what-is-the-longhouse\">longhouse<\/a>, or the need for men to \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=TBjGZWZaUQM\">clean their rooms<\/a>.\u201d Not so many people, however, want to talk about what\u2019s wrong with women. Even the longhouse complaint is that women are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.firstthings.com\/web-exclusives\/2023\/02\/what-is-the-longhouse\">too successful<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>As of 2022, women held <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bls.gov\/cps\/cpsaat11.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">52 percent<\/a> of professional-managerial roles in the U.S. Women earn more than <a href=\"https:\/\/nces.ed.gov\/programs\/digest\/d20\/tables\/dt20_318.30.asp\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">57 percent<\/a> of bachelor degrees, 61 percent of master\u2019s degrees, and 54 percent of doctoral degrees. And because they are overrepresented in professions, such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/vaccine-inquisitions-as-covid-vaccination-mandates-increase-religious-exemptions-come-under-fire\/\" title=\"Vaccine Inquisitions? As COVID Vaccination Mandates Increase, Religious Exemptions Come Under Fire\">human resource management<\/a> (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.bls.gov\/cps\/cpsaat11.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">73 percent<\/a>) and compliance officers (57 percent), that determine workplace behavioral norms, they have an outsized influence on professional culture, which itself has an outsized influence on American culture more generally.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>The bureaucracy that controls Western life is feminized, the longhouse argument goes; implying that women have won. But is that true? Is it \u201cwinning\u201d for women to wield power at the expense of their sexual counterparts, the other half of humanity, without which there <em>is <\/em>no humanity? Are women happier ostensibly being in charge? It seems obvious the answer to that is a resounding no.<\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-2-long d-flex justify-content-center\" style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center; \" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-2123974637\">\n<div id=\"div-gpt-ad-1379703300879-0\" class=\"mb-30\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-542b87c5dbe34b7a50a7026d9be23a8c fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-2\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-542b87c5dbe34b7a50a7026d9be23a8c\"><\/div>\n<p>Our society offers very few generally accepted successful strategies for helping both men and women achieve happiness through maturity. The women might look better on their resumes, but they\u2019re also a skyrocketing majority of antidepressant and other pharmaceutical users. And it sure doesn\u2019t satisfy women that they can kick tail in the office if their apartments are filled with cats, houseplants, and vacation pictures because the men available aren\u2019t working towards family-sustaining salaries or interested in trying to lead even one slightly fractious and anxious woman on the quintessential life adventure of growing a family.<\/p>\n<p>While our culture may not offer either men or women good counsel about how to create a fulfilling life, author and life coach <a href=\"https:\/\/www.suzannevenker.com\/\">Suzanne Venker<\/a> does. A longtime Federalist writer, Suzanne has expanded her writing career into coaching so she can get right in the trenches with women. Venker\u2019s latest book out in March from Post Hill Press, <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.suzannevenker.com\/books\/how-to-build-a-better-life\/\">How to Build a Better Life<\/a><\/em>, distills her countercultural, practical, and effective life advice for women into eight digestible chapters. <\/p>\n<p>Her overarching theme is simple: To be happy, women have to do just about the opposite of what secularized Western culture tells them. This theme builds on other how-to books Suzanne has written, including <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Alpha-Females-Guide-Men-Marriage\/dp\/1618688448\">The Alpha Female\u2019s Guide to Men and Marriage<\/a><\/em>, which I buy for friends\u2019 wedding showers.<\/p>\n<p>What does it mean to swim against the cultural current? Suzanne lays that out in her chapter titles: Live an examined life, prioritize marriage and family over a career, unleash your feminine power, date with purpose, don\u2019t <em>not<\/em> have babies or <em>not <\/em>stay home with them just because you\u2019re in debt, change your definition of work-life balance, learn the truth about daycare (that no one ever told you), and love your life, not theirs. <\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-4aeb642d97152d997f79599f86963437 fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-6\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-4aeb642d97152d997f79599f86963437\"><\/div>\n<p>Suzanne regularly points out that women often clue in to the importance of these feminine ways of life so late that it causes them some big regrets. That\u2019s a big reason she does the work she does: to help women avoid regrets that often start accumulating in their early to mid 30s for suboptimal decisions in their 20s. If women in their 20s know they are likely candidates for such regrets, they can better avoid them. <\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s sad this sort of information has to be conveyed by a relationship coach instead of a mother, aunt, big sister, or grandmother, but that\u2019s where our atomized society is right now. Suzanne capably fills in the big sister or aunt role for our society\u2019s lost women.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve followed Suzanne\u2019s advice. So have women close to me. She\u2019s been right every time. She really understands male-female dynamics and what truly <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/while-everyone-else-is-kicking-themselves-for-voting-for-biden-college-educated-women-are-doubling-down\/\" title=\"While Everyone Else Is Kicking Themselves For Voting For Biden, College-Educated Women Are Doubling Down\">makes women happy<\/a> better than almost any voice in the public square. Suzanne\u2019s encouragement has been among those helping me focus on mothering my children despite the constant social, financial, and news-cycle pressure to work more instead. <\/p>\n<p>One of her most controversial and internet-viral stances has been to explain why daycare damages children, something about which most millennials and Gen Z women know nothing. They\u2019ve been told daycare is good for babies and toddlers, that it helps them get ready for school and \u201csocialize\u201d and give mom a break. <\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-b99ee63ed8ce3a7b958a237e6c75c13e fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-10\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-b99ee63ed8ce3a7b958a237e6c75c13e\"><\/div>\n<p>They haven\u2019t been told that daycare is just about the worst childcare environment possible because it\u2019s chaotic and overstimulating, prompting chronic cortisol stress surges that can trend small children toward anxious, moody, and sick for the rest of their lives. When momma needs a break, a few hours at home with a babysitter \u2014 even better if he\u2019s dad or another family member \u2014 are far better. <\/p>\n<p>Researchers are looking at tons of things to pinpoint causes of skyrocketing youth anxiety and depression, from social media to Covid-19 to sexual orientation to puberty and peer pressure. What hardly any have done is investigate further the research-indicated links between long-term nonparent care and lifelong chronic anxiety and agitation. <\/p>\n<p>Perhaps the most striking results <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nationalaffairs.com\/publications\/detail\/the-uncomfortable-truth-about-daycare\">surfaced <\/a>in Quebec, which opened a universal birth-to-school government daycare program a generation ago. Researchers <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nber.org\/papers\/w21571\">found <\/a>that, as adults, the kids who attended the program are significantly more anxious and depressed and less self-controlled and happy than kids who didn\u2019t. Multiple <a href=\"https:\/\/www.heritage.org\/education\/report\/research-review-universal-preschool-may-do-more-harm-good\">studies <\/a>have found <a href=\"https:\/\/edlibertywatch.org\/2015\/11\/compilation-analysis-of-early-childhood-research-regarding-effect-fade-out-academic-emotional-harm\/\">similar <\/a>results. <\/p>\n<p>This is intimately connected with the striking unhappiness of so many women today, both as a cause and as an effect. The proportion of American children in extended nonparent care has <a href=\"https:\/\/nieer.org\/yearbook\/2023\">dramatically increased<\/a> in the last 50 years. That means more women old enough to be mothers today were detached from their families at young ages, damaging the bonding that is crucial for robust emotional development. That detachment, a form of self-protection against the anxiety of being left to fend for oneself at a young age, gets passed on and sometimes expanded when these women forego children or separate themselves from the children they do have. <\/p>\n<p>Rather than blame America\u2019s young women for problems like these, which are not all their fault, Suzanne offers them the emotional support and practical wisdom that many of our mothers, grandmothers, and aunts should have but for whatever reason \u2014 perhaps something as simple as living far away or as complicated as divorce \u2014 didn\u2019t. Her positive, can-do attitude is refreshing and compassionate, and a model for everyone, since we all deal with and love people with emotional hangups that are delaying their rise to maturity. Just as yelling at young men to \u201cget a job\u201d may be correct but ineffective, so is yelling at young women to \u201cstop crying liberal tears and voting for abortion.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>America\u2019s distressed young need not to be talked <em>at <\/em>but talked <em>through <\/em>their problems, to be walked and counseled by someone who is on their team and who shows up for them. In short, they need the parenting and familial support that too many did not get enough of when they were younger and most still don\u2019t have as adults. <\/p>\n<p>Suzanne shows young women how to work through their emotional issues so they can mother their children in a satisfying way that contributes both to personal and societal happiness. Mothers who focus on their children are the key to addressing a very large part of our society\u2019s inner chaos and discontent. Young women need to hear this, and to hear that we <em>can <\/em>be the mothers too many of us didn\u2019t have, and that doing this is more effective than just about anything else we could do to promote our own good along with the common good. <\/p>\n<p>Get this book for all the women in your life who might be open to Suzanne\u2019s positive, truly woman-empowering message.<\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-2ce49b90100735f6113764844b5cb13a fdrlst__b89e9-after-post-content\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-2ce49b90100735f6113764844b5cb13a\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\">    \t\t\t\t\t   \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n<p><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Discussion often centers on men&#8217;s issues like &#8220;toxic masculinity&#8221; or &#8220;the end of men,&#8221; while neglecting women&#8217;s challenges. The focus is on men needing to improve, but women also face scrutiny, such as being labeled too successful. 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