{"id":2223939,"date":"2024-04-18T07:55:02","date_gmt":"2024-04-18T11:55:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/strangling-for-sexual-sport-is-exactly-the-kind-of-thing-we-should-kink-shame\/"},"modified":"2024-04-18T08:04:30","modified_gmt":"2024-04-18T12:04:30","slug":"strangling-for-sexual-sport-is-exactly-the-kind-of-thing-we-should-kink-shame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/strangling-for-sexual-sport-is-exactly-the-kind-of-thing-we-should-kink-shame\/","title":{"rendered":"Shaming strangulation for sexual gratification is important"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"float:left\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">14<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fstrangling-for-sexual-sport-is-exactly-the-kind-of-thing-we-should-kink-shame%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=2223939&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>The text discusses the concerning trend of sexual asphyxiation, especially among \u2064young individuals,\u200b attributing it\u2062 to the\u2064 influence of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/clarence-thomas-appears-to-endorse-outlawing-social-medias-censorship-of-conservatives-everything-you-need-to-know\/\" title=\"Clarence Thomas Appears To Endorse Outlawing Social Media\u2019s Censorship Of Conservatives: Everything You Need To Know\">online porn<\/a>. It highlights the health risks associated with\u200b this practice, underlining the\u2064 need for \u2063a reevaluation of sexual morality in modern society. The \u2063article suggests that addressing the root causes,\u2063 such as \u200cthe normalization of harmful behaviors in porn, is crucial for promoting healthier attitudes \u200ctowards sex.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"readmore\">\n    <button onclick=\"showReadMore()\" id=\"readmorebtn\">Read more&#8230;<\/button>\n<\/p>\n<hr id=\"line\">\n<span id=\"more\"><\/p>\n<p><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><\/p>\n<div class=\"article-content\">\n<p>The sexual revolution is strangling itself. Literally.<\/p>\n<p>A recent New York Times <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/04\/12\/opinion\/choking-teen-sex-brain-damage.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">piece<\/a> by Peggy Orenstein explains, \u201cTwenty years ago, sexual asphyxiation appears to have been unusual among any demographic, let alone young people who were new to sex and iffy at communication. That\u2019s changed radically in a short time.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-2-long d-flex justify-content-center\" style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center; \" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-696976250\">\n<div id=\"div-gpt-ad-1379703300879-0\" class=\"mb-30\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-15c91ae8d7f41dea8b7c00354c950cf3 fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-2\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-15c91ae8d7f41dea8b7c00354c950cf3\"><\/div>\n<p>Other writers have reported on this trend, but Orenstein provides data as well as anecdotes. She <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/tennessee-nonprofit-sues-board-of-education-to-end-mask-mandate-for-60000-kids\/\" title=\"Tennessee Nonprofit Sues Board Of Education To End Mask Mandate For 60,000+ Kids\">cites research<\/a> by Debby Herbenick, who in a recent large survey of college students found, \u201cNearly two-thirds of women \u2026 said a partner had choked them during sex (one-third in their most recent encounter). The rate of those women who said they were between the ages 12 and 17 the first time that happened had shot up to 40 percent from one in four.\u201d Which is to say that most sexually active young women should expect to be sexually choked at some point.<\/p>\n<p>Orenstein blames online porn, in which the sexual strangulation of women is now a \u201cstaple\u201d that young men are emulating, sometimes encouraged by various internet guides purporting to explain how to do so safely. But as she bluntly puts it, \u201cThere is no safe way to strangle someone.\u201d Yet she rushes to assure readers that \u201cI\u2019m not here to kink-shame (or anything-shame).\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Why not?<\/p>\n<p>People should be ashamed of doing bad things, such as seeking sexual pleasure via strangulation. For nearly all of human history, stigma and shame were effective means of regulating sexual behavior. They were, as with all things human, flawed, but they were nonetheless regarded as essential to restraining and guiding sexual behavior.<\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-8bd05e9f9f1afc6a05d0f09fa4d4d349 fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-6\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-8bd05e9f9f1afc6a05d0f09fa4d4d349\"><\/div>\n<p>But now the sexual revolution has triumphed, and it has no language of sexual morality beyond the bare requirement of consent. This poverty of moral imagination and vocabulary has neutered shame\u2019s ability to restrain sexual behavior. Indeed, to the extent it is still deployed, it is to shame people for being too \u201cvanilla\u201d sexually \u2014 the only thing that is sexually shameful is to have sexual shame; the only thing that must be restrained is restraint.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Condemnation for Health Reasons<\/h2>\n<p>This has hamstrung our culture\u2019s ability to address problems such as the sudden proliferation of sexual strangulation. And so Orenstein turns to the jargon of health and safety to condemn it, noting that \u201crestricting blood flow to the brain, even briefly, can cause permanent injury, including stroke and cognitive impairment.\u201d She cites research studies in which MRI scans found:<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n[U]ndergraduate women who have been repeatedly choked show a reduction in cortical folding in the brain compared with a never-choked control group. They also showed widespread cortical thickening, an inflammation response that is associated with elevated risk of later-onset mental illness. In completing simple memory tasks, their brains had to work far harder than the control group, recruiting from more regions to achieve the same level of accuracy. The hemispheres in the choked group\u2019s brains, too, were badly skewed, with the right side hyperactive and the left underperforming. A similar imbalance is associated with mood disorders.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>She then notes that women who have been sexually strangled were also more likely to suffer from a litany of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/rnc-chair-condemns-biden-abortion-policy\/\" title=\"RNC chair condemns Biden abortion policy\">mental health problems<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>We should be glad that Orenstein has been able to criticize choking in The New York Times, that arbiter of cultural liberalism. But it should not require brain scans and mental health surveys to condemn men who choke women for sexual sport. If sexual liberalism cannot judge such deeds as evil until it sees the MRI results, then it is a farcical moral philosophy. This inadequacy is not mitigated by Orenstein\u2019s attempt to smuggle morality back into the sexual landscape by reaching for the language of equality, observing that sexual trends involving \u201cpain or submission, like choking, are generally more for women.\u201d But sexual choking would be wrong even if it were distributed equally between the sexes.<\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-2da138473ba10913ccd6e7b7575d2f75 fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-10\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-2da138473ba10913ccd6e7b7575d2f75\"><\/div>\n<p>These sorts of persistent inequalities reveal another failure of sexual liberalism, which is its determination to neglect the differences between the sexes \u2014 only to be horrified when they reappear in perverse, harmful ways, as in the proliferation of sexual choking. Despite its trendiness, women tend to dislike being choked, though Orenstein reports that some \u201cwere enthusiastic; they requested it. It is exciting to feel so vulnerable, a college junior explained. The power dynamic turns her on.\u201d The meeting of masculinity and femininity is reduced to a perverse caricature of male physical dominance over the female.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Women Opt Out of Sex<\/h2>\n<p>Sexual liberation was supposed to abolish toxic sexual dynamics between men and women, but it has reconstituted them in new and dangerous ways. And it is not even delivering the pleasure it promised. Orenstein drily added that this \u201csame young woman, incidentally, had never climaxed with a partner.\u201d The end of the sexual revolution is violent, joyless sex that injures women.<\/p>\n<p>This miserable consummation of sexual liberation is turning many people off sex entirely. Men\u2019s porn habits are making them less desirable to women, and less capable of sustaining a good relationship. Given a choice between unsatisfying, perhaps brutal, sex and no sex, many young women will choose the latter. Indeed, the violence and degradation of porn, and its seepage into real-world sex, may also explain much of the surge in young women wanting to stop being women \u2014 if being a woman means being treated like what they see in porn and experience from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/how-liberalism-ruined-sex-and-degraded-women\/\" title=\"How Liberalism Ruined Sex And Degraded Women\">porn-addled men<\/a>, then no wonder some young women want a way out.<\/p>\n<p>Orenstein\u2019s proposed remedies, like her analysis, are crippled by her unwillingness to challenge the dogmas of the sexual revolution. For example, she would like to push for \u201cevidence-based porn literacy curricula\u201d and raises the possibility of imposing real age verification requirements on porn sites. The latter is a good first step that has already been implemented in several states, but teaching \u201cporn literacy\u201d is a terrible idea that will only further normalize porn.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ban Porn<\/h2>\n<p>Instead, we ought to ban it. Porn is addictive and destructive, and obscenity is not protected by the First Amendment. Yes, porn will never be eradicated, but the major purveyors could be shut down and porn pushed back to the seedy margins of society and the internet, rather than being immediately and endlessly available to every teenager.<\/p>\n<p>But such bold action would require real moral judgment and resolve, and the closest Orenstein can come to moralizing is to conclude, \u201cYoung people \u2026 deserve, and desperately need, models of [sexual] interactions that are respectful, communicative, mutual and, at the very least, safe.\u201d This half-hearted attempt at a positive vision for relations, including sexual, between men and women quickly retreats to demanding only the most basic restraint of not hurting one\u2019s partner \u2014 and leaves each woman to try to negotiate this on her own in an unregulated sexual marketplace with partners who have no obligations toward her.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Sexual Revolution\u2019s Lie<\/h2>\n<p>In contrast to this hesitant, attenuated vision of what the union of a man and woman should be like, Christians and others who have resisted the sexual revolution can provide a much fuller understanding of how men and women can flourish together. We know that genuine and enduring well-being and happiness in this life are best secured by making and honoring commitments that prioritize long-term goods over immediate gratification. Which is to say, marriage.<\/p>\n<p>The sexual revolution sold a lie. It promised freedom, companionship, and pleasure, but Americans are lonelier and having less sex than ever \u2014 and much of what they are having is just bad. If sexual liberation can\u2019t even provide good sex, then what possible reason is there to keep pursuing it? We should instead amend our ways and vigorously promote and encourage lifelong monogamous marriage, which, among its many benefits, includes, on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Get-Married-Americans-Families-Civilization\/dp\/0063210851\">average<\/a>, more sex and more satisfying sex.<\/p>\n<p>This may shock those steeped in the ideals of sexual liberalism, which imagines human flourishing as an individualistic endeavor. But the truth is that people require deep relationships, marked by love made manifest through mutual obligation and interdependence, to thrive. And those who have understood this don\u2019t need to see brain scans to know that strangling women for sexual pleasure is wicked and perverse.<\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-7529c73453625b838326abc17efffd5d fdrlst__b89e9-after-post-content\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-7529c73453625b838326abc17efffd5d\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\">    \t\t\t\t\t   \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n<p><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The sexual revolution is paradoxically stifling itself through a growing trend of erotic asphyxiation. In a recent New York Times article, Peggy Orenstein highlighted the alarming shift: &#8220;Twenty years ago, this practice was rare, especially among the inexperienced who struggled with communication. Today, it has permeated various demographics rapidly.&#8221; Numerous authors have echoed similar concerns<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":538,"featured_media":2223940,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/Empty-bed-set-photo.jpg","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2223939","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/Empty-bed-set-photo.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2223939","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/538"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2223939"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2223939\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2223940"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2223939"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2223939"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2223939"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}