{"id":2223915,"date":"2024-04-18T07:25:02","date_gmt":"2024-04-18T11:25:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/the-10-most-cringeworthy-excerpts-from-the-new-york-times-article-on-polycules\/"},"modified":"2024-04-18T07:32:58","modified_gmt":"2024-04-18T11:32:58","slug":"the-10-most-cringeworthy-excerpts-from-the-new-york-times-article-on-polycules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/the-10-most-cringeworthy-excerpts-from-the-new-york-times-article-on-polycules\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 10 Awkward Quotes from The New York Times Article About &#8216;Polycules"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">24<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fthe-10-most-cringeworthy-excerpts-from-the-new-york-times-article-on-polycules%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=2223915&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>The New York Times\u2064 Magazine \u2063recently published\u200c an article featuring\u2063 a 20-person\u200b polycule, exploring their complexities like setting boundaries,\u200c handling\u2062 jealousy, and \u2063fostering community. The term \u200b&#8217;polycules&#8217; refers to intricate structures of interconnected individuals in romantic, sexual, or platonic relationships. The article delves \u2063into \u2062the challenges and dynamics of \u2064these \u200brelationships,\u200d shedding light on \u2062their unconventional nature and the lifestyles involved.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"readmore\">\n    <button onclick=\"showReadMore()\" id=\"readmorebtn\">Read more&#8230;<\/button>\n<\/p>\n<hr id=\"line\">\n<span id=\"more\"><\/p>\n<p><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><?xml encoding=\"utf-8\" ?><\/p>\n<div class=\"article-content\">\n<p>This week, The New York Times Magazine released a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/i-have-blood-on-my-hands-after-being-fired-whistleblower-alleges-foreign-governments-abuse-of-facebook\/\" title=\"\u2018I Have Blood On My Hands\u2019: After Being Fired, \u2018Whistleblower\u2019 Alleges Foreign Governments\u2019 Abuse Of Facebook\">long profile<\/a> on \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/interactive\/2024\/04\/15\/magazine\/polycule-polyamory-boston.html\">Lessons From a 20-Person Polycule: How they set boundaries, navigate jealousy, wingman their spouses and foster community.<\/a>\u201d <\/p>\n<p>\u201cPolycules\u201d are still obscure enough that the Times feels the need for an explainer in the first paragraph, so it\u2019s an open question whether such a high-profile outlet giving these people attention is a good idea. But if you\u2019re curious, here\u2019s the explanation: <\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-2-long d-flex justify-content-center\" style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center; \" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-1957432620\">\n<div id=\"div-gpt-ad-1379703300879-0\" class=\"mb-30\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-03aab5d8cc6e957bc526d576e408f39a fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-2\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-03aab5d8cc6e957bc526d576e408f39a\"><\/div>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>The word \u201cpolycule\u201d is a synthesis of polyamory \u2014 engaging in multiple romantic relationships \u2014 and molecule. \u2026it seems to have started catching on around 15 years ago to suggest an intricate structure formed of people with overlapping deep attachments: romantic, sexual, sensual, platonic. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Of course, now that the Times is injecting this further into the discourse, it\u2019s perhaps worth discussing how self-evidently insane the world of \u201cpolycules\u201d is. So let\u2019s take a whirlwind tour of some of the highlights of this profile. <\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Being in a polycule is all about \u201cethical nonmonogamy,\u201d which, aside from being a contradiction in terms, isn\u2019t a concept anyone agrees on:  <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>It\u2019s freedom. I am so grateful to be a part of it. I have this abundance of love to give. I feel so in my power. We all approach ENM, ethical nonmonogamy, differently. Everyone is so deeply in love with each other, whether or not it\u2019s romantic love.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>2. As you may have suspected, these people were warped by college <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/christian-college-hosts-event-blaming-evil-white-evangelicals-for-electing-the-least-christian-president-in-american-history\/\" title=\"Christian College Hosts Event Blaming Evil \u2018White Evangelicals\u2019 For Electing The \u2018Least-Christian President In American History\u2019\">gender studies<\/a> departments: <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>I was enthralled in college with gender-studies theory. I started to articulate that I was queer. I identify anywhere from femme to nonbinary, depending on the day. My pronouns are she\/they. Gender studies is where I realized that nonmonogamy was an option. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>3. If you think managing a healthy monogamous relationship can be difficult, self-described \u201crelationship anarchists\u201d sit down for six to 10 hours of \u201cpoly-processing\u201d:<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-5cf2054b798f3c3da6f04b7367df2b17 fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-6\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-5cf2054b798f3c3da6f04b7367df2b17\"><\/div>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>My husband and I are very, very different, which is our strength. He\u2019s a frat bro who loves sports, and I\u2019m a radical alien witch academic nerd. \u2026We learned a strategy from the Multiamory podcast called \u2018agile scrum,\u2019 which was adapted from business-meeting models. We utilized that format. We did that for a year and a half, at least once a month, sometimes six to 10 hours of hard poly-processing. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>4. If you\u2019re upset your wife is sleeping with someone else, well, that\u2019s your problem and you need therapy and medication to get over it. (Also, Ben Shapiro, call your office.) <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>We have this motto: Feelings are not facts. That gets us through the hard times.<\/p>\n<p>At the start, I was going through some depression, and when we had sex I had so much stress. There were issues in the bedroom with her, and that happened many times, which caused more stress. She started seeing this dude who was an absolute stud, having sex with him and having a great-ass time, and I felt totally lame and inadequate.<\/p>\n<p>That was really hard for me, for obvious reasons. I felt like, I\u2019m a hundred percent replaceable. It took a lot of conversations. She was like, There\u2019s nothing wrong with you, this is going to pass, therapy will help. Lots of tears were shed. But medication helped me, talk therapy helped me, changing the way we do things helped. That\u2019s where feelings are not facts really mattered. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>5. Again, all of the rules, which are being made up as they go, and scheduling sound EXHAUSTING. It really puts a new spin on Oscar Wilde\u2019s quip, \u201cThe trouble with socialism is that it takes up too many evenings.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>In the polycule, it ranges from people who really don\u2019t have rules to we\u2019re only going to date people together or we\u2019re going to participate in the group only as friendships, or as sensual friendships, or we\u2019re only going to be sexually intimate at gatherings, and outside of that we\u2019re not going to date anyone individually. We keep track in group chats\u2026<\/p>\n<p>I spend 60 percent of my time in my house with my nesting partner and about 25 percent of my time with another partner, and although I technically have one home right now, I\u2019m in the process of building homes with multiple partners. There are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/los-angeles-school-district-uses-cartoon-video-to-announce-required-daily-covid-check-ins\/\" title=\"Los Angeles School District Uses Cartoon Video To Announce Required Daily COVID Check-Ins\">check-ins<\/a>, but the check-ins aren\u2019t for permission. It\u2019s, I\u2019m doing these things, I\u2019m going to be gone for these two weeks, what do you need from me?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>6. Their kids are not all right. <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>I have one partner now with three kids. He is transmasc, and he\u2019s radical about the way he raises them. They\u2019re radically home-schooled. They\u2019re 17 and nonbinary, 6 and 5. They know everything in age-appropriate ways. They\u2019ve seen their mommy undergo the transmasc experience, seen their mom become who they really are.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>7. At the core, polycules are an infantile and desperate attempt at living in a fantasyland where participants never have to accept responsibility and meaningful obligations to others:<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-089f948cef03ec84f1ca061905c6c78d fdrlst__b89e9-paragraph-10\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-089f948cef03ec84f1ca061905c6c78d\"><\/div>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>Last night I was at a party that was full of poly people, and at the end of the night we wound up in this big cuddle pile. There were eight of us fit together like puzzle pieces, snuggling. It felt so cozy, so much oxytocin flowing. We were all envisioning living together, not having to worry about individual mortgages, just having some big house. Can\u2019t we just do that? Why can\u2019t we do that? An adult sleepover camp, that\u2019s the vibe. It is my mission to make that happen for me and whoever wants to join me.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>8. Speaking of mortgages, the nuclear family needs to be undone\u2026 because housing is expensive?<\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>The structure of the nuclear family, the nuclear marriage, needs to shift. It\u2019s really hard to afford a house. Some of us are thinking of moving into a place with four or five bedrooms where eight or nine of us could live together. We could share the burden of bills. It\u2019s just more realistic. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>9. Some of the women in polycules have deep-seated sexual trauma, which might explain some things. <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>Some of us are survivors of sexual assault and have reclaimed what it means to be a sexual woman, to be radically and unapologetically ourselves. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>10. Yes, these people are pushing for political, cultural, and legal acceptance of this insanity\u2026 and in some liberal bastions are succeeding: <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p>There are so many things we\u2019re pushing against, but we still have to live within. My husband and I married for the legal benefits, for taxes and things like that. Our society\u2019s laws benefit married people. But I\u2019ve talked to my girlfriend about us being married as well, and while that can\u2019t be legal right now, we would like to have that for ourselves, maybe a small ceremony, rings on the other hand, something that signifies our bond and our life commitment. In Somerville, which is the city right next to mine, the city legally recognizes multiple domestic partners. I think our society is moving toward that, but it\u2019s a slow process.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div class=\"fdrlst__b89e9-61479fe2455bb3dbc592f1023a7321f2 fdrlst__b89e9-after-post-content\" id=\"fdrlst__b89e9-61479fe2455bb3dbc592f1023a7321f2\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\">    \t\t\t\t\t   \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n<p><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This week, The New York Times Magazine featured an in-depth piece on a 20-person polycule. The article delves into setting boundaries, managing jealousy, supporting partners, and building community within these complex relationships. &#8216;Polycules&#8217; are sufficiently niche that the Times includes a primer in the opening, sparking curiosity about the viability of such arrangements<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":274,"featured_media":2223916,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/polyamory.png","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[546],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2223915","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-federalist"],"fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/polyamory.png","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2223915","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/274"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2223915"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2223915\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2223916"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2223915"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2223915"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2223915"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}