{"id":1833417,"date":"2023-02-03T03:19:35","date_gmt":"2023-02-03T08:19:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1833417"},"modified":"2023-02-03T03:22:32","modified_gmt":"2023-02-03T08:22:32","slug":"no-you-cant-check-out-of-hands-on-parenting-just-because-youre-tired","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/no-you-cant-check-out-of-hands-on-parenting-just-because-youre-tired\/","title":{"rendered":"No, You Can\u2019t Check Out Of Hands-On Parenting Just Because You\u2019re \u2018Tired\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"float:left\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">24<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fno-you-cant-check-out-of-hands-on-parenting-just-because-youre-tired%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1833417&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47-->\n<p>A recent <a href=\"https:\/\/www.msn.com\/en-us\/news\/us\/we-re-too-tired-to-be-helicopter-parents-our-kids-will-be-happier-for-it\/ar-AA16YA6M\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Essay<\/a> Kara Baskin, mother, writer, and editor of The Boston Globe cheers on a new trend among parents that isn&#8217;t demanding academic perfection from their children and instead over-scheduling them for tutoring, music lessons and other enrichment activities. <\/p>\n<p>In the face of a growing mental health crisis among youth and a changing economy, fathers and mothers are reducing the importance of many of these activities and easing the pressure on their children to attend an Ivy League. Baskin, speaking for these parents, says, \u201cWe are tired, our kids are stressed out, and our values have changed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As an Advanced Placement English teacher as well as a father and a millennial who grew-up in the midst the so-called &#8220;Millennial Era&#8221;, \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/wp-srv\/national\/longterm\/mommywars\/mommy.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mommy Wars<\/a>,\u201d in which mothers (primarily those who worked and those who stayed at home) had innumerable arguments over the best way to raise children, I would agree with at least one of Baskin\u2019s points. <\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s right that parents and their children have become less interested in crafting the perfect college resume and are instead looking to minimize the cost of higher education and maximize its utility. My students are more interested in vocational programs than when I began teaching fifteen years ago. And there\u2019s thankfully much less social stigma attached to opting out of a four-year university and choosing to earn an associate\u2019s degree at a community college and enter a trade.<\/p>\n<p>But, I disagree with her argument. Yes, the world has changed, and parents, in general, have relaxed their expectations somewhat after the Covid-19 pandemic, but this isn\u2019t the result of some collective epiphany of today\u2019s parents, nor is it really a good thing. The problem of mental health and stress will be worsened if parents stop pushing their children.<\/p>\n<p>Much of the problem in Baskin\u2019s argument lies with her terms and her framing of the Mommy Wars. For no good reason, she conflates the different parent caricatures \u2014 helicopter parents, tiger moms, crunchy moms, soccer moms, free-range parents \u2014 each of whom take very different approaches to raising their children. Parents might sometimes claim their method is the best. Self-described Tiger mom <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wsj.com\/articles\/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Amy Chua<\/a> probably takes the cake for this), they would often learn from one another and do what worked \u2014 usually finding some kind of middle ground between pushing children and giving them room to explore their passions and find themselves.<\/p>\n<p>This means that there has always been a discussion about finding the ideal. \u201cacademic and social balance,\u201d as one of Baskin\u2019s parents puts it. Very few parents went to extremes with their kids \u2014 the tiger moms and free-range parents were always small minorities. The happy medium for most parents was to schedule children with lots of extracurricular activities while still being relaxed with expectations and heaping on the pressure.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Is your attempt not to be a helicopter parent turning your kid into an overconfident underachiever?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":551,"featured_media":1833420,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/cndimages.nyc3.digitaloceanspaces.com\/breaking-news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/IMG_2758-scaled-1.jpg","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[546],"tags":[8303,3680,5335,17458,17459,7045,6778],"class_list":["post-1833417","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-federalist","tag-no","tag-cant","tag-check","tag-hands-on","tag-parenting","tag-tired","tag-youre"],"fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/cndimages.nyc3.digitaloceanspaces.com\/breaking-news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/IMG_2758-scaled-1.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1833417","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/551"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1833417"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1833417\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1833420"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1833417"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1833417"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1833417"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}