{"id":1732279,"date":"2022-11-09T14:48:04","date_gmt":"2022-11-09T19:48:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1732279"},"modified":"2022-11-09T14:48:10","modified_gmt":"2022-11-09T19:48:10","slug":"order-chaos-and-negotiations-in-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/order-chaos-and-negotiations-in-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Order, Chaos, And Negotiations In Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">12<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Forder-chaos-and-negotiations-in-marriage%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1732279&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>The following is a transcript excerpt from Dr. Jordan Peterson\u2019s new series on marriage. You can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailywire.com\/episode\/negotiation\">watch<\/a> the special on DailyWire+.<\/p>\n<p>Episode time: 9:44<\/p>\n<p>Tammy and I collected a lot of art. This is part of beautifying the house, let\u2019s say \u2014 not just putting it in order. I went online (on eBay mostly), and I looked at, I think, a million paintings. I looked at 300 or 400 paintings a day for six years, and I bought about 500 paintings. And for those of you who think you can\u2019t afford art, art is free; taste is expensive. If you develop your taste, you can find art online for nothing. I bought collections of 40 Impressionist paintings from Russia for like $200 \u2014 $5 a painting. You can afford that, but you have to have some taste.<\/p>\n<p>I would go in and look at hundreds of paintings and then I\u2019d select like 20, and I\u2019d print them out, put them on the floor, and then Tammy would come in, and I\u2019d say, \u2018Get rid of 15 of these. Which ones have flaws?\u2019 She\u2019d point out the flaws, and then we\u2019d end up with a collection of about five, and I\u2019d buy them. Then we put art all over the house \u2014 like 300 paintings. Some of them were pretty brutal because I bought a lot of Soviet realist art. Some of that featured Lenin and, you know, he was a very bad guy. And some of it featured war scenes, so there was a real harshness. I was studying propaganda and totalitarianism, and so that was kind of rough. Then we renovated our house and took all the art out, and then we got sick. The art didn\u2019t make it back.<\/p>\n<p>So we started to negotiate again about bringing the art in-house. And it was real tense for a while because Tammy had made the house bright and airy \u2014 because it was a dark house, semi-detached, without very many windows, hard to make it light \u2014 and she didn\u2019t really want to have the war and propaganda paintings back. But I really liked some of them. They were very high-quality paintings and I had focused a lot on totalitarianism. So that was kind of a sticking point for us. And then I thought, \u2018Well, maybe those paintings served their purpose. And they are kind of dark and we have a lot of other paintings, so maybe we could just decorate the house with the other paintings, and we could try that and see how it goes.\u2019 So we decided to do that, and then we put up all the paintings. We had to make joint decisions that appealed to both of our tastes, and we actually had a really fun time doing it. Now there\u2019s like 150 paintings back up in the house, and it\u2019s a very vivacious place, and it\u2019s well lit. I liked it before \u2014 before we did the last renovation \u2014 but it\u2019s better now.<\/p>\n<p>One of the bones of contention was, I was buying these often museum-quality paintings that were made by expert artists \u2014 because the Russians kept their traditional art capacity and skill going even during the Soviet era, although it was subverted to propaganda often \u2014 but many of these paintings were very high quality. They\u2019re up on the walls, and we had little kids around. Then the issue is, well, can the little kids touch the paintings? And is now the house such a museum that nobody can have any fun in it? Our jointly negotiated solution to that was, we\u2019ll put the paintings up on the wall and we\u2019ll have the kids, and if the paintings get damaged \u2014 apart from stupidity on the part of the children which we\u2019ll stop \u2014 that\u2019s life. They\u2019re not behind glass. This isn\u2019t a sterile environment. It\u2019s a welcoming environment. Plus, it turns out that oil paintings on canvas are unbelievably tough, even if you dent the hell out of them. Julian dented one with a basketball and put a pretty decent size bulge in it, and I found out if you just sprayed the back of the canvas with water, it would shrink and tighten back up. No chips. Oil paintings are tough and so that was fine. But we had to negotiate that. That was a balance between order and chaos, right? Because the paintings are on the walls, and they\u2019re all placed very carefully because we looked at a lot. We put every painting in the place we thought it was best, and we went through every room like that multiple times.<\/p>\n<p>You get your house in order, but you allow for that interleaving of chaos because there have to be dogs and cats and children and guests, and they have to be able to<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The following is a transcript excerpt from Dr. Jordan Peterson\u2019s new series on marriage. 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