{"id":1712776,"date":"2022-10-27T07:18:27","date_gmt":"2022-10-27T11:18:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1712776"},"modified":"2022-10-27T07:18:52","modified_gmt":"2022-10-27T11:18:52","slug":"the-absolute-necessity-of-fathers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/the-absolute-necessity-of-fathers\/","title":{"rendered":"The Absolute Necessity Of Fathers"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">10<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fthe-absolute-necessity-of-fathers%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1712776&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>The following is a transcript excerpt from Dr. Jordan Peterson\u2019s conversation with Warren Farrell on the role fathers play in a child\u2019s development. You can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailywire.com\/podcasts\/the-jordan-b-peterson-podcast\/warren-farrell-the-absolute-necessity-of-fathers\">listen to<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailywire.com\/episode\/warren-farrell-the-absolute-necessity-of-fathers\">watch<\/a> the full podcast on DailyWire+.<\/p>\n<p>Podcast time: 1:16:11<\/p>\n<p>Imagine your family has a story, and the story is where we came from, where we are, and where we\u2019re going together as a unit. Then each of the individuals within that story has a story. What you\u2019re doing in those family dinners \u2014 that interaction time \u2014 is you\u2019re taking the individual story threads and you\u2019re weaving them together to make the collective story, that keeps everyone up-to-date and on the same page and able to empathize in a deep manner. Because if I don\u2019t know where you are or what you\u2019re up to, I can\u2019t figure out what you\u2019re thinking or feeling. So I have to know what story you\u2019re acting out right now, and so do you. In order for you to know that, and for me to know it, you have to be able to tell your story. And I have to be able to ask you questions about it.<\/p>\n<p>I think the other thing that\u2019s really important about the shared meal is that, you know, human beings are really weird creatures because we seriously share food. And we\u2019re social eaters. People don\u2019t eat well if they eat on their own. It\u2019s deeply rooted into us that idea of sharing food. Part of the extended process of socialization is to get everybody to sit down around food, to be polite and thankful for the fact of the food, to enjoy that, but then also to be able to give and take all that\u2019s being shared. I would say, if the most fundamental element of socialization is something like the embodiment of rough and tumble play, the next layer on top of that would be the ability to sit down and share food and have civilized discourse.<\/p>\n[Dr. Peterson continues the conversation on what constitutes civilized discourse at the family table a few minutes later in the discussion.]\n<p>Part of it is to know the story before you offer criticism. Carl Rogers had good advice about that. You probably already know this, but it\u2019s worth reiterating for people who don\u2019t. Rogers\u2019s rule was, when you\u2019re listening to someone, first of all, don\u2019t assume that either you or they know what they\u2019re talking about or what they\u2019re going to say. Because people think by talking, so you have to give them a chance to get it all out before you jump on it because they might change their own mind in midstream. So that\u2019s important. Let them formulate the problem before you jump in with the criticism. But then the next thing is \u2014 and I really love this and I think it\u2019s really useful \u2014 that once the person has laid out their story, you get to say, \u2018This is what I heard you say. Do you agree with my formulation?\u2019 That stops the listener. First of all, it indicates to the speaker that the listener actually listened. Or if there\u2019s an error, then the speaker can say, \u2018No, that\u2019s not what I meant at all.\u2019 And then there can be some clarification. But it also forces the listener to not turn the speaker into a straw man.<\/p>\n<p>It isn\u2019t only that I have to summarize what you said. I have to summarize what you said in a way that you agree with. That\u2019s also a useful technique if there happens to be some wide variation in verbal ability among the participants, and there might be because of age, for example. Even if you\u2019re somewhat incoherent and stuttering and partial in your formulation, if I\u2019m an older sibling, say, I might be able to summarize it back for you in a way that\u2019s actually helpful to you from the perspective of a cognitive scaffold.<\/p>\n<p>We know that human beings organize their personalities at the highest level through narrative, and that narrative is not only thought; it\u2019s spoken. You speak your personality into being in these sorts of shared environments that you\u2019re describing. Without that, your story is fragmented and incoherent, and so are you. If shared meals weren\u2019t so damn important, people wouldn\u2019t have evolved the capacity to engage in them, right? They\u2019re central to our social life. To have that abandoned in a family is really a catastrophe.<\/p>\n<p>To hear the rest of the discussion, continue by listening or watching this episode on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailywire.com\/watch\/browse\">DailyWire+<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jordanbpeterson.com\/\">Dr. Jordan B. Peterson<\/a> is a clinical psychologist and professor emeritus at the University of Toronto. From 1993 to 1998 he served as assistant and then associate professor of psychology at Harvard. He is the international bestselling author of Maps of Meaning, 12 Rules For Life, and Beyond Order. You can now <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailywire.com\/podcasts\/the-jordan-b-peterson-podcast\">listen<\/a> to<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The following is a transcript excerpt from Dr. Jordan Peterson\u2019s conversation with Warren Farrell on the role fathers play in a child\u2019s development. You can listen to or watch the full podcast on DailyWire+. 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