{"id":1705166,"date":"2022-10-21T07:35:37","date_gmt":"2022-10-21T11:35:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1705166"},"modified":"2022-10-21T07:35:48","modified_gmt":"2022-10-21T11:35:48","slug":"abortion-harms-fathers-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/abortion-harms-fathers-too\/","title":{"rendered":"Abortion Harms Fathers Too"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"float:left\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">8<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fabortion-harms-fathers-too%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1705166&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>Thirty-four years ago, President Ronald Reagan and Congress <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reaganlibrary.gov\/archives\/speech\/proclamation-5890-pregnancy-and-infant-loss-awareness-month-1988\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">named<\/a> October Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Their goal was \u201cto increase our understanding of the great tragedy involved in the deaths of unborn and newborn babies\u201d and to raise awareness of how to \u201cmeet the needs of bereaved parents.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>But I didn\u2019t need the president of the United States to tell me about the grief of losing a child. Six months before the declaration, I lost my first of three children. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.realclearreligion.org\/articles\/2022\/06\/20\/moving_forward_but_never_moving_on_what_parents_who_lost_children_need_you_to_know_837609.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Like many parents who lose a child<\/a>, I felt confusion, grief, and sorrow. But unlike those who lose a child through stillbirth or miscarriage, I had no one to help me come to terms with my pain, because my child was aborted.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month has done a great deal to open people\u2019s minds and hearts about miscarriage and stillbirth, but there is still widespread misunderstanding about how abortion harms both women and men. My story of lost fatherhood is common, but it is also commonly misunderstood.<\/p>\n<p> My Experience <\/p>\n<p>I was just 18 when my child died. I opposed the abortion but tried to \u201csupport\u201d my then-girlfriend by accompanying her and her mother to the abortion center. I had spent years overcoming a difficult childhood, getting my life on track for success \u2014 but the abortion changed that. Confused, hurt, and ashamed for reasons I didn\u2019t yet realize, I tried to hide it all by staying busy \u2014 drifting around the country, changing jobs, and avoiding getting close to anyone.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>But this unhealthy lifestyle came back to bite me just a few years later when a different ex-girlfriend told me she was pregnant. We\u2019d only had a brief relationship, so this was the definition of an unexpected pregnancy, one she wanted to end with an abortion. I begged her to keep the child, offering to marry, raise the baby without her, or even place the child up for adoption. But she turned me down, saying our child wasn\u2019t a baby and that it wasn\u2019t my choice.<\/p>\n<p>Like many men, I believed she was right. My opinion didn\u2019t matter; my pain and regret were inappropriate. It took 17 years for me to begin to find healing, to begin to understand so much of my pain and shame came from feeling helpless to protect my unborn children. And it was years later that I began to truly understand that I wasn\u2019t alone, that \u201cpregnancy loss\u201d often profoundly affects men.<\/p>\n<p> A Place to Heal <\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s very little data about how abortion harms men and women, but what we do know is that it hurts a great deal. Data on how abortion hurts men and women are not well publicized. Research in <a href=\"https:\/\/supportafterabortion.com\/about\/annual-reports\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Support After Abortion\u2019s 2021 Annual Report<\/a> showed that while 44 percent of men said that they did not have a say in the abortion decision, 71 percent of men said they had experienced adverse effects.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Women face the brunt of social pressure related to abortion \u2014 whether it\u2019s being<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month is the right time for men grieving from abortion to find their path to real recovery.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1458,"featured_media":1705169,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/cndimages.nyc3.digitaloceanspaces.com\/breaking-news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/IMG_2758-scaled-1.jpg","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[546],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1705166","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-federalist"],"fifu_image_url":"https:\/\/cndimages.nyc3.digitaloceanspaces.com\/breaking-news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/IMG_2758-scaled-1.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1705166","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1458"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1705166"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1705166\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1705169"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1705166"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1705166"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1705166"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}