{"id":1517601,"date":"2022-06-15T16:04:56","date_gmt":"2022-06-15T20:04:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1517601"},"modified":"2022-06-15T16:05:07","modified_gmt":"2022-06-15T20:05:07","slug":"traditional-masculinity-isnt-the-problem-the-attempt-to-dismantle-traditional-masculinity-is-the-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/traditional-masculinity-isnt-the-problem-the-attempt-to-dismantle-traditional-masculinity-is-the-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"Traditional Masculinity Isn\u2019t The Problem. The Attempt To Dismantle Traditional Masculinity Is The Problem."},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">28<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Ftraditional-masculinity-isnt-the-problem-the-attempt-to-dismantle-traditional-masculinity-is-the-problem%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1517601&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><p>There\u2019s no shortage today of articles on \u201ctoxic masculinity.\u201d In fact, a full-length CBS documentary titled \u201cSpeaking Frankly: Raising Boys\u201d asks if there is \u201ca better way to raise boys to avoid toxic masculinity?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The documentary details the trials and tribulations of parents who want to protect their sons from the horrors of traditional masculinity. The main thrust is that boys in our culture are broken, and it\u2019s our outdated and \u201cdisturbing\u201d notions of masculinity that broke them.<\/p>\n<p>This is all wrong.<\/p>\n<p>The people interviewed for the article, along with the author herself, are perpetuating the very problem they say they want to solve. The real toxic thing is the attitude and approach they embody. Traditional masculinity is not at fault here. What\u2019s at fault is the confused and contradictory attempt to dismantle it.<\/p>\n<p>A few points. First, you\u2019re starting on the wrong foot if you\u2019re using a phrase like \u201ctoxic masculinity.\u201d In practice, it seems that toxic masculinity can either refer to traditionally masculine traits that are now wrongly regarded as harmful, or actually harmful traits that are often associated with men. If it\u2019s used in the first sense, it\u2019s obviously degrading and damaging because it tells men that their natural masculine dispositions are somehow disordered. I\u2019ll get back to that in a moment.<\/p>\n<p>In the second sense, it unfairly blames masculinity for bullying or narcissistic behavior that has no gender. If you don\u2019t understand why men might take issue with this approach, just imagine how almost any woman would react if I said that gossipy, materialistic bimbos have \u201ctoxic femininity.\u201d That would be, at the very least, an unnecessarily inflammatory way of addressing the problem of materialistic bimbos. But worse than that, it would suggest that femininity, taken to a toxic extreme, results in dumb bimbos who spend their husbands\u2019 money on shoes and purses. It seems to say: \u201cIt\u2019s okay to be a woman, but don\u2019t be too womanly.\u201d Of course, nobody ever does talk about toxic femininity. And the reason we don\u2019t talk about it is because we recognize how insulting and demeaning the concept is. We have simply decided that it\u2019s okay to be insulting and demeaning toward men.<\/p>\n<p>Second, there is nothing wrong with telling boys that men \u201cbehave a certain way.\u201d There\u2019s nothing wrong with telling them to be strong or encouraging them to exercise control over their emotions. Obviously these messages can be delivered the wrong way, but the fundamental point is good and important. The problem in our culture isn\u2019t that boys are being thrown in a \u201cbox\u201d or forced to conform to some strict notion of masculinity. In fact, our problem is exactly the opposite.<\/p>\n<p>Too many boys are given no instructions on how to be men, no example to follow, no guidance on how to grow and mature in their masculinity. The folks over at A Call To Men seem to think we\u2019re living in the 1940s. They haven\u2019t noticed that the era of the Strong and Stoic Man ended a long time ago. We\u2019re living now in the era of drag queens and feminism, of gender fluidity and fatherless homes. Most boys these days have no clue how to be men, no idea about what to do with their masculine energy, because nobody has ever told them or shown them.<\/p>\n<p>The fact of the matter is this: most boys are born with a propensity to \u201cbehave a certain way.\u201d There\u2019s a reason why nearly every civilization throughout history and across the world has come to remarkably similar conclusions about what men are supposed to do and what role they are supposed to fill. They didn\u2019t all arbitrarily and coincidentally invent the same \u201csocial construct.\u201d No, they noticed that men are naturally aggressive, and so they said that men should be warriors. They noticed that men are naturally stronger than woman, and so they said that men should be protectors. They noticed that men have a greater propensity and desire to leave their homes and go out into the wild, and so they said that men should be hunters and providers. They noticed that boys have lots of physical energy, and so they came up with sports for the boys to play. The point is that societies, until recently, have not invented masculinity but harnessed it. They said to boys: \u201cThis is how you naturally are, and that\u2019s good. Now here is how you can best put those tendencies and abilities to use for yourselves, your families, and your communities.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Now we insist, despite all evidence to the contrary, that boys are not naturally inclined to act in any particular way. Or worse, we say that their natural inclinations are toxic. This results, in the best case scenario, with boys who are given no road map to follow into adulthood; no direction for becoming well adjusted and contributing<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There\u2019s no shortage today of articles on \u201ctoxic masculinity.\u201d In fact, a full-length CBS documentary titled \u201cSpeaking Frankly: Raising Boys\u201d asks if there is \u201ca better way to raise boys to avoid toxic masculinity?\u201d The documentary details the trials and tribulations of parents who want to protect their sons from the horrors of traditional masculinity. &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":305,"featured_media":1517682,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mo_disable_npp":"","fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1517601","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1517601","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/305"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1517601"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1517601\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1517682"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1517601"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1517601"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1517601"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}