{"id":1500706,"date":"2022-06-02T08:01:26","date_gmt":"2022-06-02T12:01:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1500706"},"modified":"2022-06-02T08:01:34","modified_gmt":"2022-06-02T12:01:34","slug":"here-are-the-books-that-taught-me-how-to-help-a-mentally-ill-loved-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/here-are-the-books-that-taught-me-how-to-help-a-mentally-ill-loved-one\/","title":{"rendered":"Here Are The Books That Taught Me How To Help A Mentally Ill Loved One"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"&quot;\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">30<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fhere-are-the-books-that-taught-me-how-to-help-a-mentally-ill-loved-one%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1500706&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><div><\/div>\n<p>In the space of two weeks, America grieved two horrific mass shootings, in Buffalo, New York and Uvalde, Texas. Whatever other factors contributed to these tragedies, it is obvious that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.foxnews.com\/opinion\/tucker-texas-school-shooting-buffalo-mental-health\">both shooters suffered<\/a> from serious mental illness. <\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/34102649\/\">Studies have confirmed<\/a> that a significant proportion of mass shooters have an untreated psychiatric disorder. Yet many <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thenationalcouncil.org\/resources\/mass-violence-in-america-causes-impacts-and-solutions\/\">downplay this link<\/a>. It is not politically correct to talk about the connection between mental illness and violence. We don\u2019t want to further stigmatize the mentally ill, do we?<\/p>\n<p>Yet if you love someone with serious mental illness, <a href=\"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/2020\/03\/18\/amid-national-emergency-federal-agencies-lecture-americans-about-wuhan-virus-stigma\/\">truth is more important<\/a> than managing public relations. My <a href=\"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/2019\/11\/26\/how-i-learned-to-be-thankful-even-for-mental-illness\/\">oldest son suffers<\/a> from a psychotic disorder that spun him in and out of psych wards for five years. Thankfully, he found an effective medication and has been following his treatment plan faithfully. <\/p>\n<p>He still has painful challenges. But with God\u2019s help, he has become a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Zeppy-Cheng\/e\/B00VZGMQFU\">published author<\/a> and valued member of his community, caring for other young adults with physical and mental challenges.<\/p>\n<p>As a society, we need to understand mental illness, especially psychosis, in a way that is both brutally honest and compassionate. This is important not just to prevent mass shootings \u2014 shocking but rare \u2014 but also to address chronic problems like <a href=\"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/2022\/03\/18\/most-cities-responses-to-homelessness-actually-enable-even-more-homelessness\/\">homelessness<\/a>. For those who love someone with serious mental illness, like me, the need to know is urgent and personal.<\/p>\n<p>Here are my top resources for understanding the mental illnesses generally understood as schizophrenia spectrum disorders or bipolar\/depression with psychosis.<\/p>\n<h2>Medical Support<\/h2>\n<p>Even though mental illness has been with us since ancient times, many aspects of psychosis remain mysterious. In my opinion, the best scientific and practical resource for understanding schizophrenia is the aptly titled \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Surviving-Schizophrenia-7th-Family-Manual\/dp\/0062880802\/\">Surviving Schizophrenia: A Family Manual<\/a>\u201d by E. Fuller Torrey, M.D. It was originally published in 1983 and is now in its 7th edition.<\/p>\n<p>One of the most disturbing symptoms of serious mental illness is anosognosia, the inability to realize that you are sick. When a person lacks insight into his condition, and cannot acknowledge that he needs help, treatment becomes extremely difficult. Dr. Xavier Amador\u2019s book, \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Sick-Dont-Someone-Accept-Treatment\/dp\/0985206705\/\">I Am Not Sick, I Don\u2019t Need Help!<\/a>\u201d \u2014 in print for more than 20 years \u2014 is a practical guide for nudging loved ones with mental illness into accepting treatment.<\/p>\n<p>I have also appreciated the work of Dr. Rob Laitman and his organization <a href=\"https:\/\/www.teamdanielrunningforrecovery.org\/\">Team Daniel<\/a>. Dr. Laitman is a champion for the misunderstood drug Clozapine. Clozapine is an older drug that is no longer lucrative for Big Pharma. Now there are many newer, sexier, and more expensive medications. My son tried most of them as he rotated in and out of the hospital. Yet Clozapine is the one anti-psychotic medication that gave my son his life back.<\/p>\n<h2>Moral Support<\/h2>\n<p>It was very helpful for me to hear the stories of other families dealing with serious mental illness. One great resource is the podcast <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/schizophrenia-three-moms-in-the-trenches\/id1553468781\">Schizophrenia: Three Moms in the Trenches<\/a> with Randye Kaye, Mindy Greiling, and Miriam Feldman. I read each of their memoirs, which are heartbreakingly candid: \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Ben-Behind-His-Voices-Schizophrenia\/dp\/1442210893\/\">Ben Behind His Voices<\/a>,\u201d \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Fix-What-You-Can-Schizophrenia\/dp\/1517909597\/\">Fix What You Can<\/a>\u201d (Greiling was a state politician for many years), and \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/He-Came-Portrait-Motherhood-Madness\/dp\/1684425123\/\">He Came in With It: A Portrait of Motherhood and Madness<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Other excellent memoirs include \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/My-Lovely-Wife-Psych-Ward-ebook\/dp\/B01JYWTBJ0\/\">My Lovely Wife in the Psych Ward<\/a>\u201d by Mike Lukach, \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Broken-Pieces-Mends-Them-Schizophrenia\/dp\/1629953962\/\">Broken Pieces and the God who Mends Them<\/a>\u201d by Simonetta Carr (from a faith-based perspective), and \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Center-Cannot-Hold-Journey-Through\/dp\/1401309445\/\">The Center Cannot Hold<\/a>,\u201d a first-person account by distinguished law professor Elyn Saks.<\/p>\n<h2>Spiritual Support<\/h2>\n<p>I don\u2019t attribute my son\u2019s recovery to biochemistry alone. We are our bodies, for sure, but we are not only our bodies. Illness, especially mental illness, has a <a href=\"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/2018\/06\/13\/ultimately-took-kate-spade-anthony-bourdain-wasnt-mental-illness-something-worse\/\">spiritual component<\/a>. During our time of trouble, my family and I experienced the comfort of God\u2019s presence and the encouragement of our church communities. We would not have survived otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>The Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation has resources on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ccef.org\/topic\/schizophrenia\/\">schizophrenia<\/a>, as well as information on faithful suffering more generally. I especially appreciated books like \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Gods-Grace-Suffering-David-Powlison\/dp\/1433556189\/\">God\u2019s Grace in Your Suffering<\/a>\u201d by David Powlison. And if you have faith-related qualms about psych medication, I recommend Ed Welch\u2019s balanced approach in \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Blame-Brain-Distinguishing-Imbalances-Disobedience\/dp\/0875526020\/\">Blame It on the Brain<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I spent many years wrestling with God over my son\u2019s tragic condition. The trajectory of his life has been non-traditional, to say the least, and not what any mother wants for her child. By studying the ancient wisdom of the Scriptures, especially the book of Job, I finally came to a place of peace and submission to God\u2019s sovereignty. Those who are interested can journey with me in \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Passion-Job-Meditations-when-hate-ebook\/dp\/B0839PXG1K\/\">The Passion of Job: Meditations for When You Hate Your Life<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As a society, we must <a href=\"https:\/\/thefederalist.com\/2018\/07\/16\/7-practical-strategies-addressing-americas-mental-illness-crisis\/\">face serious mental illness<\/a> with honesty and compassion. If your loved one is suffering from mental illness, I urge you to be strong, and to learn about effective treatment strategies. <\/p>\n<p>We must not settle for well-meaning actions that are useless at best, harmful at worst. We must not be distracted by politics or side issues. For America, the stakes have never been higher.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\" \/>\n<p>\n  Laura practices employment law and teaches political science at her local university. The opinions stated in this article are her own. 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