{"id":1453717,"date":"2022-04-26T08:00:35","date_gmt":"2022-04-26T12:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1453717"},"modified":"2022-04-26T08:01:11","modified_gmt":"2022-04-26T12:01:11","slug":"the-depp-heard-trial-reminds-us-that-toxic-femininity-is-real-and-horrifying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/the-depp-heard-trial-reminds-us-that-toxic-femininity-is-real-and-horrifying\/","title":{"rendered":"The Depp-Heard Trial Reminds Us That Toxic Femininity Is Real And Horrifying"},"content":{"rendered":"<aside class=\"mashsb-container mashsb-main mashsb-stretched\"><div class=\"mashsb-box\"><div class=\"mashsb-count mash-medium\" style=\"float:left\"><div class=\"counts mashsbcount\">24<\/div><span class=\"mashsb-sharetext\">SHARES<\/span><\/div><div class=\"mashsb-buttons\"><a class=\"mashicon-facebook mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.conservativenewsdaily.net%2Fbreaking-news%2Fthe-depp-heard-trial-reminds-us-that-toxic-femininity-is-real-and-horrifying%2F\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Facebook<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-twitter mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=&amp;url=https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/?p=1453717&amp;via=ConservNewsDly\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Twitter<\/span><\/a><a class=\"mashicon-subscribe mash-medium mash-nomargin mashsb-noshadow\" href=\"#\" target=\"_top\" rel=\"nofollow\"><span class=\"icon\"><\/span><span class=\"text\">Subscribe<\/span><\/a><div class=\"onoffswitch2 mash-medium mashsb-noshadow\" style=\"display:none\"><\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n                <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div><\/aside>\n            <!-- Share buttons by mashshare.net - Version: 4.0.47--><div><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.conservativenewsdaily.net\/breaking-news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/image-2022-04-25T155403.812.png\" class=\"ff-og-image-inserted\" alt=\"image\" \/><\/div>\n<p>If you\u2019ve heard anything about the ongoing defamation trial between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard, you can tell their relationship was chaotic and both parties contributed to the dysfunction. Allegations have flown from both sides, but in one recording Heard appears to admit to physically hitting her ex-husband, then suggesting he should quit being a baby and absorb the abuse.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI didn\u2019t punch you. \u2026 I was hitting you; it was not punching you. You didn\u2019t get punched, you got hit,\u201d she <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/entertainment\/amber-heard-johnny-depp-abuse-recordings-trial-221111417.html\">said<\/a> in a recording played in court. \u201cBut you\u2019re fine, I did not hurt you. \u2026 You are such a baby, grow the f-ck up, Johnny.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Johnny Depp expressing his displeasure with being hit made him a \u201cbaby\u201d in Heard\u2019s eyes \u2014 a phrase used as an overt attack on his manhood. This is often a gaslighting tactic used by abusers to legitimize their destructive behavior. When angry, abusive women may use men as their punching bags on whom they can unleash all their frustration and aren\u2019t supposed to complain afterward.<\/p>\n<p>Men amongst each other understand the real implications of violence, which is why we understand how important it is to be selective about engaging in it. We are raised to understand that while our physical strength means we carry the \u201cbig stick,\u201d we must lean on speaking softly as a method of conflict resolution with other men.<\/p>\n<p>However, how we engage with women is to always speak softly and pretend to have no stick. On average, men are taller and stronger than women. Because of our biological advantages, we\u2019ve placed a higher level of responsibility (and consequences) on men to remain stoic at all costs and restrain themselves when interacting with women in moments of frustration.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Men have grown up hearing the phrase \u201cThere is never a reason to hit a woman,\u201d and many of us would go as far as protecting a woman we don\u2019t know from a man who has chosen to break this code of conduct. While it is socially unacceptable for a man to physically harm a woman, what about the inverse?<\/p>\n<p>We all understand that an out-of-control man is a dangerous man because of his stature and his ability to overpower his female counterpart. But an out-of-control woman is just as dangerous to a man who has been bred to be tame no matter the circumstance.<\/p>\n<p>Our physical stature gives the impression that we can easily withstand the impact of a woman\u2019s beating but, despite our size, we still feel pain and we still bear the emotional toll. Even after a man heals from his scratches and bruises, he is still mentally affected by the lack of respect another human being displayed for his welfare. A once strong, proud man is now cowering in fear by the very person he was trained to protect.<\/p>\n<p>We have a zero-tolerance policy for men striking women, meaning no matter how heinous or reprehensible the woman\u2019s behavior was prior to being assaulted, the assault supersedes it. Yet female-to-male violence in our society treats men as physical specimens designed to withstand force instead of also being emotional creatures who deserve care and respect. <\/p>\n<p>That double standard helps explain why we are still battling over how responsible Depp is for Heard\u2019s apparent abuse, or for the emotional state which led her to it. We are socially still struggling with how to treat women as equals, not in just the positive aspects of our society but even in the negatives. <\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve succumbed to the \u201cwomen are inherently oppressed\u201d narrative, to the point of possibly defending abusers. A woman like Heard was long granted legitimacy as a \u201cvoice for survivors,\u201d while Depp struggled to get people to see what he appears to have been drowning in.<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\" \/>\n<p>\n  Adam B. Coleman is the author of &#8220;Black Victim To Black Victor&#8221; and founder of Wrong Speak Publishing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you\u2019ve heard anything about the ongoing defamation trial between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard, you can tell their relationship was chaotic and both parties contributed to the dysfunction. 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