Elon Musk Custody Fight Underscores Problems Of Situationships

World’s richest man Elon Musk is again publicly fighting with one of the four mothers of his 14 (known) children. After Ashley St. Clair posted support for child-mutilating queer perversion over the weekend, Musk declared Monday he’s seeking full custody of their child, “given [St. Clair’s] statements implying she might transition a one-year-old boy.”

St. Clair (probably deliberately) put a stick in a known sore spot for Musk by connecting these comments to another of his children, who identifies as transgender. Musk has previously said he bought Twitter to fight culture-manipulating internet censorship and propaganda operations after that child of his caught “a woke mind virus” at college and went transgender.

For his children’s safety and happiness, Musk also needs to realize that not living in their homes married to their mother is a significant risk factor for developing a queer identity. Children with attachment issues and childhood trauma — such as divorce or unmarried parents — are at much higher risk for queer identification.

Unbeknownst to him and millions of other Americans who also engage in hookup culture and other actions that break up families, Musk’s sexual behavior increases the risks that his children turn out the exact opposite of what he thinks is best for them. Not only is this hell for them, since he’s right that transgenderism tortures its practitioners, it’s also hell for parents like Musk forced to watch their kids mutilate themselves and reject their families.

It’s a sad story all around. If awarded to his father, the St. Clair child will be safer from a mother who has quite apparent manipulation issues, but also probably be raised largely by a nanny like an orphan. In other words, the child will face attachment disorders that, especially in our sexually insane society, increase the risk he’ll go transgender even if technically raised by his anti-transgender dad. This situation is a tragic example of why weakening marriage and detaching it from sex hurts children most, but also hurts all of us, and immensely.

Other aspects of the situation illustrate this as well. Although their child is only one year old, St. Clair has gained a reputation for publicity stunts seeking Musk’s attention. As women have known for centuries, St. Clair wouldn’t have to stage degrading public antics for Musk’s attention if she’d secured a marriage before making his baby. As men have known for centuries, marrying the women who could generate children from their semen dramatically cuts down on post-coital female insanity. It’s almost like marriage — real, lifelong marriage, where any partner who cheats faces stiff legal penalties — is good for men, women, and children!

Because Musk reportedly gave St. Clair a $2.5 million baby bonus and pays her $500,000 a year in child support, he is effectively funding both sides of their legal battle. Thanks to the nation’s hideously unjust no-fault divorce regime, that’s common for any men whose nonworking wives file for divorce — the legal fees get taken out of the assets the man’s paid labor accumulated over their marriage, and whatever remains is then usually divided 50-50.

That a woman can marry a guy then divorce him and take his kids and half his life’s labor even if he did nothing wrong is a massive and obvious injustice. No-fault divorce also allows a guy to cheat on his wife and ditch her and the kids while pretending “child support” makes up for the loss of a present husband and father. It’s a terrible, unjust policy that also happens to make men and women falsely believe they can avoid custody disputes if they just shack up. Turns out, shacking up also results in divorce-like effects, as we can all see afflicting Musk and his kids.

The truth is, the smartest man in the world isn’t going to outthink centuries of accumulated human wisdom — or God. It’s a shame that an astronomically achieving civilizational contributor like Musk was apparently never taught basic realities about what it takes to make a happy life.

Here’s an example of one such basic reality: What’s the likelihood a woman willing to sell her body for fame and money is going to be a good mother? Practically zero. A guy who cares about his children, like Musk seems to be, should have thought seriously about that before potentially giving any woman indefinite access to his child, money, and mind through sex with her.

Again, these are old, fundamental realities that every traditional society has understood for millennia. It’s why traditional societies strongly oppose divorce and sex outside marriage — because intentionally making fatherless or motherless kids leads to lifelong, unquenchable heartache that affects everyone.

Musk might be astronomically rich, but his bedroom behavior is unwittingly making his life, not to mention his children, poor. That’s because the relational wealth of a happy home far surpasses any financial wealth (as the classic tale of George Bailey expresses so well).

Women used to understand that us prioritizing this precious, sacred private space over careers is a strategic wealth investment in the happiness of our families and society. Men used to understand that trading their labor for the family magic a satisfied woman can work is well worth the exchange.

The opposite is also true: No amount of wealth can compensate for tortured family relationships. And there may be no misery in human life deeper than that of a broken family. These are wounds of primal betrayal.

No pain feels worse or lasts longer than the treachery of your own mother, father, husband, wife, or child. It’s a lifelong open sore that never fully heals. It lasts your entire life and distorts the most meaningful memories and rituals humans have, such as personal milestones and family Christmases.

I have no idea what Christmas looks like for Musk’s children, but you can bet it doesn’t involve all of them getting together with their dad and their mothers for a peaceful, joy-filled Christmas day. This means that every year, at least some of Musks’ kids miss out on Christmas with their own dad. That matters! People are not AI robots. We care deeply about ineffible things like seeing our dads at Christmas. That’s only a problem if you are anti-human.

Everyone knows blended families are fertile drama swamps, and the fact that a minority of blended families somehow manages well doesn’t change that. It’s because the loyalties of the people involved are indelibly crossed and broken, and that messes with their minds and hearts. How could it not?

Joy-filled, peaceful Christmases used to be standard for most American children. So did a generally peaceful emotional life, free from the anguish of knowing their parents don’t love each other or their kids enough to make things work. Now, not even the richest children are able to afford that priceless emotional security, all thanks to adults deciding, en masse, that children need to bear the lifelong burden of their parents’ short-lived, selfish passions.